Stop the Stalker Cold!
The 4th In a Series of 6 “Back To School” Survival
Strategies Postings
By Harry The Hammer
In the 3rd Survival Skills article in this Back To School Special
Series, I noted that many sexual assaults against women students are prceded
by and/or accompanied by unrelenting stalking. Although, of course, there are
cases where stalking does not end in sexual assault, too many do for The School
Of Winology not to issue its Survival Strategies Designed
To Stop the Predatory Stalker Dead In His Tracks:
- SAY “NO!” AND REALLY MEAN IT WHEN “STALKER” CALLS/APPROACHED
YOU. - MAKE REJECTION FINAL AND QUICK. MAKE IT CLEAR YOU
DO NOT WANT TO SEE HIM, BECAUSE OF HIS ACTIONS, NOT BECAUSE
OF ANOTHER MAN (Any stalker worth his psychosis will think “Gee,
all I gotta do is get him out of the picture and she’ll see me.”). - REPORT ANY SUBSEQUENT HARASSMENT, STALKING, ETC. TO CAMPUS SECURITY AND/OR
POLICE. - IF CLEAR REJECTION AND REPORTING HIM FAILS, MAKE IT HARDER FOR HIM TO CONTACT
YOU (change phone number; change routes to and from class and try to be
accompanied by friends when waling the campus, etc.). - DOCUMENT EVERYTHING.
- NEVER NEGOTIATE. IT’S OVER. SAY “NO. IT’S OVER.” ONCE.
EXPLICITLY! (Every time a woman gives in, even if she doesn’t respond to 40
phone messages and hundreds of e-mails, but finally picks up the phone to
talk, even though she still says, “Like I said before, John, it’s over and
I mean it,” the only thing predatory stalker learns is the lesson that it
requires 40 phone messages and 100 e-mails to get you to respond to him. - ADOPT A HARD TARGET ATTITUDE. A nice woman wants to let
the stalker down easy. A Stalker Cannot Be Dealt With Nicely! Break
Up the Hard Target Way: “John, I do not want to be in a relationship
with you.” - HARD TARGET AXIOM: THE BEST WAY TO STOP CONTACT IS TO STOP CONTACT.
- IF AND WHEN TRACKED BY THE STALKER, DECIDE RIGHT THEN AND THERE
WHAT TO DO IF STALKER DOES NOT RESPECT YOUR WISHES TO BE LEFT ALONE. - IF STANDING UP FOR YOURSELF IS YOUR CHOICE:
- HAVE APLAN A AND PLAN B (FAILURE PLAN).
- BE OBSERVANT. KNOW WHERE YOU ARE AT ALL TIMES: ESCAPE ROUTES;
BARRICADES IN THE ENVIRONMENT YOU CAN USE TO KEEP DISTANCE/ESCAPE. - ASSUME A FIGHTING STANCE.
- USE THE ELEMENTS OF SURPRISE.
- USE THE STALKER’S FIRST TOUCH AS A TRIGGER TO “EXPLODE” INTO HIS
CENTER-LINE TARGETS. BREATHE FOR POWER AND CONTROL. - IF BAD GUY GRABS YOU HIGH, MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT TO LURE HIM INTO
“SINGULARITY OF FOCUS” AND SURPRISE HIM BY GOING LOW. - HIT SECONDARY TARGETS/OPEN UP PRIMARY TARGETS (GROIN, EYES, THROAT).
- DENY THE STALKER PRIVACY. WHAT HE WANTS MOST
IS TO MOVE YOU FROM THIS INITIAL LOCATION TO A SECONDARY OR PRIVATE
(CRIME) SCENE WHERE HE CAN DO WHATEVER HE WANTS FOR HOWEVER LONG HE
WANTS WITHOUT FEAR OF WITNESSES. OBEY THE GOLDEN RULE OF SURIVAL: DO
NOT GO WITH HIM! DO NOT GET INTO HIS CAR! DO NOT TAKE HIM TO YOUR PRIVATE
LOCALE, ETC. IF STALKER DOES FORCE YOU OR FOLLOW YOU TO
A PRIVATE PLACE, DESTROY THAT ENVIROMENT SO
THERE IS NO MISTAKE TO POLICE OR WITNESSES THAT YOU WERE COMPLIANT.
THIS MAY CAUSE HIM TO WITHDRAW. - AND PLEASE, IF THE STALKER TRIES TO HURT YOU, LIGHT
THE FUSE, AND HIT HIM IN AS MANY VULNERABLE TARGETS AS MANY TIMES AS
IT TAKES TO WIN THE FIGHT. HIT HIM WITH—- Head Butts *front and back of temple).
- Finger Gouges (Yep. Gouge his eyes).
- Elbows, the hardest personal weapons you have.
- Heels of your palms.
- Knees.
- Shins.
- Feet.
- Bite him. Tear him up.
- Improvised Weapons (cell phone, remote control, spatula; travel
mug, paperback/hardback books, snow scraper. Damned near anything
can be a weapon.
Contact Harry The Hammer thru this site if you have any questions
regarding strategies, terminology, etc. The Hammer will be delighted to provide
you with amplification and tips regarding actual Fighting Arts techniques of
survival.
484-542-0040 Cell. 610-253-3666 (H/Office) harrywigder@rcn.com
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