Survival Skills For Women: Suck It Up and Fight, Girl!
MY last post talked about the Ideal Victim whom almost all predators target. Course, the intent of the post, as with any other, is to point out cogent characteristics, traits, mindsets and actions that can get you abducted and maybe even killed. It is my hope that you read the post, take inventory of yourself (if, of course, the shoe fits), and do what you can to make the changes that will help you make yourself into what I call a Hard Target rather than – if you match the Victim Profile – a Free Lunch for the predator. Maybe the best way to begin doing this is to adopt the primal philosophy of the Fighting Arts, which in the instance of a prospective assailant approaching you, “testing or interviewing” you, and, then suddenly invading your personal safe zone and grabbing you (First Touch) is to take the fight to the attacker (before he can take it to you).
I am hip. You’re thinking, Uh, Duh, no crap, Hammer, but exactly how do I – an 110 pound woman with no fighting experience or instincts, do that? Tell me, genius, how exactly does that work?
A little snippy in the attitude-department, but, still good point. So, here we go:
- First, if you develop a Hard Target (Assertive) Personality, I really believe you will rarely have to fight. An HTA (Hard target Attitude) will immediately reject any approach, but, even when the Bad Guy approaches, you are going to reject any verbal testing and are going to have a definitive strategy against any touching.
- Get your mind straight. Being willing to fight is more important than being able.
- Get Your Mind Straight, Part II: Willingness is very cool and chic; but the key to putting willingness into action is developing the Psyche Of Survival. This Psyche can also be called Mental Conditioning, and it involves some crucial elements to firing up all your neurons in your Central Nervous System in order to be able to explode into action when the over-confident idiot makes the mistake of First Touch (ing you).
Ø Think Ahead: Ask yourself before you even go out, answer a door, or go in to a strange (or, even familiar) locale: “What If?” Always have a Plan. What would I do if someone grabs me from behind here?
Ø Trust Your Gut Instincts. Millions of years of evolution making the hair stand up on the back of your neck. Either get out (escape and evade), or get ready to fight. Gut Instincts are never wrong, folks.
Ø “Explode At First Touch!” When the Bad Guy “touches” you, it is almost always the first step in the attack. This is when you must take the fight to him! Invoke the Element of Surprise when he most expects you to freeze and give up.
Ø Train Yourself To Take The Survivor’s Edge by Breathing, Moving, Verbalizing, which will break you out of the mental/physical paralysis this type of situation often invokes. I know I have said this all before, but, 9 out of 10 victims lose the fight before it begins by holding their breath, freezing in place, and going frigging mute.
- Attacking first is a great equalizer. Puts the Bad Guy back on his heels, fractures his attack-fantasy-script to hell and back, thereby weakening him because of the breakdown between his original plan (mental) and his motor abilities (physical).
- There Aint No Such Thing As a Fair Fight. Remember, this is a fight for survival. Hit first, hit often and keep moving. Stay focused on open targets. Do not think! Just hit the targets with your best striking zones (Palm Heels/ElbowsForehead/Forearms/Knees/Shins, et al., and hit targets with the greatest dollar value. Targets that, when hit over and over, will prevent the Bad Guy from seeing, hearing, breathing, ambulating, even thinking.
- Concentrating On Open Targets Makes You Task Oriented. Being task-oriented helps overcome the debilitating element of fear. Allow adrenaline to give you power. Fear only robs you of speed, power and commitment to survival.
In the next post: How To Know When An Attack Is Inevitable.
Until Then: Stay Safe.
Hammer