SHATTERING THE STALKER’S SCRIPT
KNOW YOUR ENEMY and you shall own him, a great warrior once said and I’m here to tell you that Tsun Tse’s words are true. So, let’s take a sec and look at the Psychology of the Stalker when he’s on the street.
- He depends on victim compliance.
- He almost always has a pre-planned strategy, or even a fantasy script. He spends an amazing amount of time planning the attack. The thrill of the kill plays a big role in the entire “game” he plays.
- When he approaches his target, the longer this script is allowed to play out, the more confident and powerful he feels. The bolder he will become.
- The stalker is often stunned and confused by any quick, decisive action (counter-measure) that violates his “script.”
- Many stalkers lose interest during the initial “testing” stage when his victim refuses to act like the victim in his script.
- Real-Time Stalkers always have a Victim-Profile in mind.
The Mindset that Shatters the Stalker’s Script.
- She refuses to be tested.
- She always controls her space. No one gets in unless she wants him or her to, and that never includes a stalker!
- Establishes a defiant “combat stance” when the stalker invades her space. Not only that, she is willing and able to act rude, arrogant and profane.
- She always has a plan. She anticipates (If “A” happens, I will do “B.” If “B” does not work, I will never give up and I will do “C.”
- She verbally confronts harassment as soon as it begins (“testing” begins as harassment).
- Even though she is feeling fear, she gives the appearance of defiance and confrontation.
- She is willing to do anything it takes to survive.
PROCEDURES OF PROTECTION AGAINST STALKING.
- If you believe you’re being stalked, break off your route (he has already marked you as an ideal victim and is following you to see if you enter a low-witness area, which is what his scripted victim would do. Change directions, cross the street, or enter a public building. Watch the stalker from the safety of the building (unless he follows you into the building. If so, seek security).
- After a time, if you do not see the stalker, you can exit the building, making sure he is no longer there (chances are, he won’t be. You have screwed up his “fantasy script.”).
- If he is still around, establish eye contact and look defiant. Make him aware you know what he is up to!
- When possible, stay in a high-witness area. If he returns and is tracking you, he will match your pace.
- This is the time you have to tell yourself that this is it. Prepare yourself. And the best way to prepare yourself for the coming stalker-testing, invasion of your personal space, and eventual attack is:
- Prepare a pithy, dismissive verbal response now.
- Prepare a flexible physical fighting plan now (Note: I did not say Counter Attack Plan. You might want to attack him before he can strike or grab you).
- You will require 110% Commitment To Survival. Giving up when your first plan of action does not dispatch him.
Until Nest Time, Stay Safe.
Hammer.