SSPEED -A Dynamic Self Defense Equation Against Bullies and Other Predators.

IF YOU have been following my posts, you are familiar with my Tough Target Techniques for avoiding (evading) an attack by a bully, or, in the case of women, a stalker/ predator.  The important thing is, if possible, to evade the attacker without having to fight.  Preparation, Planning, Practice and Prevention – The 4 P’s of the Fighting Arts – comprise about 95 to 98% of successful self defense. 

OF COURSE, we all know that is not always possible.  Predators (for the sake of this post, I will restrict “predators” to bullies and male attackers of girls and women) almost always “tune up” for attacks through Verbal Testing.  Michael Pace, a highly respected self defense expert, agrees, noting that “the preliminary for an attack is The Interview – the threats, questions, insults and/or the ‘woofing—”  Most attacks start off with a “verbal assault because the predator wants to find out what he or she is up against – an easy target or someone who will give him or her a real fight.  A Target Person (TP) who ignores these threats, insults, or questions”will open the door for an immediate physical attack.”

S.S.P.E.E.D TO THE

RESCUE:

MICHAEL PACE calls it “Faked Compliance,” and I call it Feeding the Beast.  Call it what you like, but by faking compliance we are feeding the beast’s expectations.  He is verbally accosting the victim and his/her Tough Target words and body language have not deterred him, so when he grabs the TP (Target Person), he is relaxed, overconfident and certain that the TP is a “free lunch,” or an easy target. 

WHAT FOLLOWS is the SSPEED Counterattack Plan:

1. The Predator grabs the TP by the collar & shakes the “victim.”
2. Upon First Touch (by the Bad Guy) the TP raises both hands higher than the attacker’s, palms out, shaking them side to side in a “please don’t hurt me,” gesture and even says “please don’t hurt me!”  This is Faked Compliance or Feeding The Beast’s Expectation at its best.
3. The Bad Guy – expectations fulfilled – gains confidence in his assault’s inevitable success -moves closer, determined to throttle the victim.
4. At this point – which is First Touch by the attacker- the Target Person (TP) should Explode forward, driving both hands from their “Compliant Position” into the Bully/Predator’s face, striking hard and often quickly (Speed), connecting unexpectedly (Surprise) using quick Palm Heel Strikes to the most painful, vulnerable targets – the nose, eyes, mouth - and/or, combining the very hard heel of each hand with slashing fingertips and nails (to be used for Deadly Attacks only/attacks by bullies are not usually lethal in nature) strikes to the chin and/or nose followed up with eye strikes and gouges.
5. Palm Heel Strikes are ideal for quick (speed) surprise strikes to the face because one can hit from wherever the hands are without changing one’s hand position, plus, the heel of the palm provides a hard and powerful striking area which is both easy with which to strike and a injury-friendly area, even for a novice fighter.
6. If the attacker has grabbed the TP with both hands, there is no earthly way he or she can block these strikes.  Even if  there is one hand free to block, though,  I say go ahead and rain the bully with a storm of strikes – one strike will never ever do the job – until the threat is over.  And, as the bully lets go to protect his vital targets, I guarantee other targets will open.  I say, do it.  Hit them and hit them hard.

S.S.P.E.E.D:  Breaking It Down:

Speed:     Although Power is important in knocking out an attacker, getting to a target first is essential to winning.  There are aspects to speed that I will address is another posting, in this scenario, speed is manifested by striking with the hands exactly where the Bully sees them in the Compliant/Begging For Mercy Position.  In other words, strike from that position without telegraphing the punch by drawing back either hand, which would effectivelt destroy the element of surprise.   

Surprise: The element of surprise is the key to a successful counterattack.  The TP has set up the bully by using the “Compliant Position” and the predator has “taken the bait.”  In my Self Defense classes, the Palm Heel Strikes are Stunning Techniques, and Stuns are described as the “stimulation of overwhelming sensory input that is sudden, intense and unexpected–”  Simply put, this means that the delivering a cluster of speedy strikes to open, vulnerable targets will weaken a bully/predator through a devastating series of Mental Stuns that effectively weakens the attacker, destroys his or her (false) confidence and opens up vulnerable targets.                 

Power:  More on how to create and sustain pure Power in one’s techniques in the next posting.

Explode:  Explosiveness differs from Power in many important ways.  Look for another posting

Escape :  I will address crucial E & E strategies in another posting, also.

Dynamic:  I had to come up with a concept to complete my catchy “SSPEED” acronym.  Being Dynamic, though, means, once a TP is approached, accosted verbally, and set up for an attack, he or she must be Willing (being willing is as imporatnt as, maybe more important than, being able) to carry out the SSPEED Plan of Action with 110% commitment.

HARRY HAMMER

The 4^th In a Series of 6 “Back To School” Survival
Strategies Postings

By Harry The Hammer

In the 3^rd Survival Skills article in this Back To School Special
Series, I noted that many sexual assaults against women students are prceded
by and/or accompanied by unrelenting stalking. Although, of course, there are
cases where stalking does not end in sexual assault, too many do for The School
Of Winology not to issue its Survival Strategies Designed
To Stop the Predatory Stalker Dead In His Tracks:

1. SAY “NO!” AND REALLY MEAN IT WHEN “STALKER” CALLS/APPROACHED
   YOU.
2. MAKE REJECTION FINAL AND QUICK. MAKE IT CLEAR YOU
   DO NOT WANT TO SEE HIM, BECAUSE OF HIS ACTIONS, NOT BECAUSE
   OF ANOTHER MAN (Any stalker worth his psychosis will think “Gee,
   all I gotta do is get him out of the picture and she’ll see me.”).
3. REPORT ANY SUBSEQUENT HARASSMENT, STALKING, ETC. TO CAMPUS SECURITY AND/OR
   POLICE.
4. IF CLEAR REJECTION AND REPORTING HIM FAILS, MAKE IT HARDER FOR HIM TO CONTACT
   YOU (change phone number; change routes to and from class and try to be
   accompanied by friends when waling the campus, etc.).
5. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING.
6. NEVER NEGOTIATE. IT’S OVER. SAY “NO. IT’S OVER.” ONCE.
   EXPLICITLY! (Every time a woman gives in, even if she doesn’t respond to 40
   phone messages and hundreds of e-mails, but finally picks up the phone to
   talk, even though she still says, “Like I said before, John, it’s over and
   I mean it,” the only thing predatory stalker learns is the lesson that it
   requires 40 phone messages and 100 e-mails to get you to respond to him.
7. ADOPT A HARD TARGET ATTITUDE. A nice woman wants to let
   the stalker down easy. A Stalker Cannot Be Dealt With Nicely! Break
   Up the Hard Target Way: “John, I do not want to be in a relationship
   with you.”
8. HARD TARGET AXIOM: THE BEST WAY TO STOP CONTACT IS TO STOP CONTACT.
9. IF AND WHEN TRACKED BY THE STALKER, DECIDE RIGHT THEN AND THERE
   WHAT TO DO IF STALKER DOES NOT RESPECT YOUR WISHES TO BE LEFT ALONE.
10. IF STANDING UP FOR YOURSELF IS YOUR CHOICE:
    • HAVE APLAN A AND PLAN B (FAILURE PLAN).
    • BE OBSERVANT. KNOW WHERE YOU ARE AT ALL TIMES: ESCAPE ROUTES;
      BARRICADES IN THE ENVIRONMENT YOU CAN USE TO KEEP DISTANCE/ESCAPE.
    • ASSUME A FIGHTING STANCE.
    • USE THE ELEMENTS OF SURPRISE.
    • USE THE STALKER’S FIRST TOUCH AS A TRIGGER TO “EXPLODE” INTO HIS
      CENTER-LINE TARGETS. BREATHE FOR POWER AND CONTROL.
    • IF BAD GUY GRABS YOU HIGH, MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT TO LURE HIM INTO
      “SINGULARITY OF FOCUS” AND SURPRISE HIM BY GOING LOW.
    • HIT SECONDARY TARGETS/OPEN UP PRIMARY TARGETS (GROIN, EYES, THROAT).
    • DENY THE STALKER PRIVACY. WHAT HE WANTS MOST
      IS TO MOVE YOU FROM THIS INITIAL LOCATION TO A SECONDARY OR PRIVATE
      (CRIME) SCENE WHERE HE CAN DO WHATEVER HE WANTS FOR HOWEVER LONG HE
      WANTS WITHOUT FEAR OF WITNESSES. OBEY THE GOLDEN RULE OF SURIVAL: DO
      NOT GO WITH HIM! DO NOT GET INTO HIS CAR! DO NOT TAKE HIM TO YOUR PRIVATE
      LOCALE, ETC. IF STALKER DOES FORCE YOU OR FOLLOW YOU TO
      A PRIVATE PLACE, DESTROY THAT ENVIROMENT SO
      THERE IS NO MISTAKE TO POLICE OR WITNESSES THAT YOU WERE COMPLIANT.
      THIS MAY CAUSE HIM TO WITHDRAW.
    • AND PLEASE, IF THE STALKER TRIES TO HURT YOU, LIGHT
      THE FUSE, AND HIT HIM IN AS MANY VULNERABLE TARGETS AS MANY TIMES AS
      IT TAKES TO WIN THE FIGHT. HIT HIM WITH—
      • Head Butts *front and back of temple).
      • Finger Gouges (Yep. Gouge his eyes).
      • Elbows, the hardest personal weapons you have.
      • Heels of your palms.
      • Knees.
      • Shins.
      • Feet.
      • Bite him. Tear him up.
      • Improvised Weapons (cell phone, remote control, spatula; travel
        mug, paperback/hardback books, snow scraper. Damned near anything
        can be a weapon.

Contact Harry The Hammer thru this site if you have any questions
regarding strategies, terminology, etc. The Hammer will be delighted to provide
you with amplification and tips regarding actual Fighting Arts techniques of
survival.
484-542-0040 Cell. 610-253-3666 (H/Office) harrywigder@rcn.com

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THE 3^rd Of a Six-Part Back To SchoolSurvival Skills Winology Series

By Harry The Hammer

10 WINOLOGY SURVIVAL TIPS

1. MAKE YOURSELF INTO A HARD TARGET.
   • ADOPT AN ASSERTIVE PERSONALITY.
   • PROTEST INVASION OF SPACE, PRIVACY, AND YOUR SELF RESPECT IMMEDIATELY AND WITH VIGOR.
   • ADOPT A CONFIDENT, RELAXED AND VIGILANT STANCE AND WALKING STYLE.
   • EYEBALL SUSPICIOUS MALES AND LET THOSE WHOM YOU KNOW THAT YOU TAKE NO CRAP.
   • FORCE YOURSELF TO BE MORE AWARE WHEN GOING IN, COMING OUT OF ALL LOCALES.
2. ADOPT THE BUDDY SYSTEM.
   • REDUCES CHANCE OF ASSAULT BY OVER 75%.
   • INCREASE CONFIDENCE.

3. MAKE THE 4 A’S A PART OF YOUR LIFESTYLE (ASSESS/AWARE/ANTICIPATE/TAKE ACTION).
4. INCULCATE A “BAD ATTITUDE.”

(WE ARE ALL HIRED-WIRED FOR VIOLENCE. YOU NEED TO LIBERATE IT. LITE THE FUSE. THE ABILITY TO LITE THE FUSE IS PRICELESS WHEN YOUR LIFE, SEXUALITY, FREEDOM AND WELL-BEING IS ON THE LINE! WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR SAFETY AND SELF DEFENSE, ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING!

5. TRUST MINIMALLY. FORCE THOSE YOU KNOW TO EARN YOUR TRUST (SELF-RESPECT AND PART OF BEING A HARD TARGET).
6. BE AWARE OF TIMES OF VULNERABILITY AND DEVELOP AN ESCAPE AND EVASION STRATEGY.
   • When at parties where alcohol, drugs, etc. are available.
   • When on a date.
   • When invited to a man’s apartment, or when a date asks if he can go with you to yours.
   • When alone.
7. “DESTROY THE ENVIRONMENT” WHEN NECESSARY.
   • If attacked in an isolated room, apartment, car, et al., an attacker may tell you that no one will believe you because “you invited me here, Bitch.”
   • Ruin his Fantasy Script by throwing objects, screaming, breaking objects, making sure that he (the attacker) knows that there is no doubt (to police and/or passer-by’s) that this is a crime scene!
8. WHEN THE ATTACK COMES, THE CHOICE TO FIGHT OR GIVE IN IS ALWAYS YOURS, BUT KNOW THIS:
   • Over 92% of the women who survived an attack, sometimes without injury, had verbally and physically fought their attacker!
   • It is a rare male student or even non-student who really wants to fight you. They intend to win through intimidation. When he is challenged verbally, physically, even with simple challenging body language, more often than not, he will not attack, or, if the attack has started, will lose heart.
9. ALWAYS HAVE A PLAN. THOSE WITHOUT A PLAN WILL ALWAYS FREEZE AND PANIC.
   • Plan what to say when tested.
   • An Escape Route.
   • A “Fight Plan.” Spinal Tune your mind and body that, if necessary, you will use Surprise Moves, hit open targets, etc.
   • Remind Yourself to Breathe if grabbed.
   • Spinal Tune Yourself to Explode with strikes when First-Touched.
10. TAKE A SELF DEFENSE COURSE and/or PRACTICE SELF DEFENSE WITH A (STUDY) GROUP OF COEDS.

NOTE: There are an almost endless panoply of survival strategies and skills that I will discuss over the coming months, not to mention the scores of effective Fighting Arts I include in any one of my self defense programs. However, this is a finite venue, so I must cut this discussion off at this point. Any reader who wishes handouts, tips, etc. on this or other survival issues, please contact me at this site.

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The Second of a 6-Part Back To
School Survival Series.
By Harry “The Hammer” Wigder

TODAY’S COLLEGE CAMPUSES hold the largest concentration of young women who are at far greater risk for rape and other pernicious forms of sexual assault than women elsewhere. On campuses holding 10,000 women, there are an average of 350 rapes @ year. Many more rapes go unreported for various reasons, including the attitudes of the victims, which perpetrates the problem in the first place (embarrassment regarding how they became victims in the first place/drugs, alcohol, perhaps allowing an initial sexual advances, etc.). Many women come in contact with men in a variety of circumstances during the night and day. Add an endless amount of stimulants in what for many is their first time away from home and you have a volatile atmosphere where almost anything bad can happen.

This is a limited venue, so let’s explore a few of the dangers faced by young women on today’s campuses and follow that up with 10 Principles of Survival.

Signatures Of Danger On Today’s College Campus

1. Great Majority of Sexual Assaults in the evening – after midnight, most off-campus, 9 out of 10 instigated by men whom they know

2. Great majority of sexual assaults are accomplished through intimidation by the attacker and met with little or no physical or verbal resistance.
3. Consistently, from one study to the next, the Victims shared these Factors:

Ø Drinking and Drunkenness.

Ø Being single or alone at time of assault.

Ø Being a previous victim prior to school year.

Ø Living On Campus.

Ø Little or no Self Defense (For Women) Training or Education.

4. Stalking usually precedes or accompanies the sexual assault (165@1000 women students stalked in an average school year). There will be much more on Stalker Characteristics, Danger Signs, etc. in future postings.

First In-First Out: A consistent theme for attacks is that, when spontaneous assaults go down, the stalker chooses an instant when the coed in first going into a location or first coming out. These are moments when the victim is most distracted or least aware. The Stalker is a sly opportunist.

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I introduced
the concept of Winology in my opening posting with
true stories about one of my adventures as a state parole agent as well as some
heroism of one of the women from one of my Self Defense For Women classes who
had been violently attacked. Now I thought would be a good time to relate the
stories to the phenomenon of raw violence and what you can
learn about not only surviving it but even prevailing against it.

In other words,
The Basics of Threat Management Skills. Keep in mind, what follows is The
Basics in relationship to the abovementioned stories and illustrations
only. In the next few posts will be a myriad of tips, guidelines, principles,
skills, strategies and techniques designed to arm you, your family, friends
and/or children against violence in almost a hundred various specific areas
of threat (Domestic Terrorism; Domestic Violence; Home Invasions; Counter-Bullying;
Counter Child Abductor Strategies and Techniques; The Fighting Arts For Children;
Teens; Women; Men and/or Seniors, et al.)

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of What we Are all About

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MAD and often wicked world along comes Action
Against Violence, your reliable site for articles, essays and free-flowing
discussions, all designed to make you and your family safer. You won’t
find hyperbole here. But you will find key principles and tenets of The
Fighting Arts, a tight cluster of state-of-the-arts threat
management skills and techniques designed for ordinary citizens and
extraordinary law enforcement, military or security personnel who need to avoid
and/or overcome potential or real violence.

Whether you be the concerned
parent of a five year-old child, a senior citizen in a time when crimes against
the elderly are on a sharp incline, or, for that matter, any man or woman in
between, you can find a variety of suggestions on one or more of the following
survival skills:

• KID ESCAPE
  – Escape and Evasion skills against predators and potential abductors
  for boys and girls from aged 5 to 13.
• Self
  Defense For Teenagers.
• The Fighting
  Arts For Women.
• Beyond
  60 – Self Defense For Seniors.
• Managing
  Violence in the Workplace.
• Verbal
  De-Escalation and Defusing Techniques.
• And much,
  much more—