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LOAD “SURPRISE” INTO YOUR SELF DEFENSE GAME PLAN, PART I.

This post was originally supposed to be for parents who wish to teach their children skills to stop the bully in his or her tracks. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that the following self defense tactics and skills will work for anyone who might be required to defend her or himself against anyone who has arrogantly invaded his or her personal space and is posturing as if he or she is about to attack.

When we talk self defense, the element of surprise is essential. Remember, we are not talking about a competitive contest in a dojo or an arena overseen by a referee or a master instructor. What we are talking about is a spontaneous, close quarter life and death struggle in an environment usually selected by the attacker, who is a pernicious predator who has painstakingly planned out the assault. Likely, your attacker(s) has the following advantages:

v He/she is bigger and stronger.

v He/she has a distinct plan.

v He/she is armed with one or more (deadly) weapons.

v He/she has you *outnumbered (*when the attacker has a plan and the victim does not, the victim is already outnumbered).

v The attacker will choose the time and space of his/her attack so that the lighting is subdued, there are no witnesses, and the victim has little or no ability to move (tactically).

v The predator will almost always(98%)precede his/her attack with a slick distraction designed to get the victim looking in another direction (than at him or her) so that his or her (the prospective victim’s) focus is fractured and his/her ability to defend him or herself (against the predator) is radically weakened.

v In other words, despite all the other advantages he/she already has, the bully, sexual predator, abductor, or violent criminal, still relies mostly on The Element of Surprise to overcome his or her victim!

My point, exactly. I have no reluctance and zero hesitation to say that Surprise (ALONG WITH SPEED) is going to be your key, irrespective of your age, size, or gender to successfully defending yourself against anybody who threatens your safety, maybe even your life. Ergo in two subsequent posts, we’re going to discuss how to manifest this great element in your self defense arsenal. Used properly and with great commitment, surprise will reverse the predator-prey principle and set the bad guy back on his (or, her) heels!

SURPRISE AND SPEED KILLS!

So, what do I mean by surprise? Maybe an example will help. Have you ever been walking in the woods, perhaps your mind is lost in thought about something or someone you care about, are troubled about, and, bam, with a rush of wings flapping and bushes bursting, a covey of pheasants, or a turkey, explodes from the brush around you? It has happened to me, and, let me tell you, your heart feels like it stops, you freeze, and you can hardly breathe. Or, you are coming through a door, once again, your mind on something far away, and, bam, someone else is standing in the doorway. Someone you didn’t expect to see. Once again, you stop breathing, your mouth falls agape, and you may even stumble backwards, off balance.

I have just described exactly what” surprise” does to a person who is unaware and who is suddenly and unexpectedly confronted by a predator.

In the next two posts, though, I will tell you exactly how to Reverse the Predator-Prey Syndrome and make the Bad Guy hold his breath and stumble backwards.

Until then, Stay Safe.

Hammer

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PARENTS: BE YOUR CHILD’S BULLY-BE-GONE SAFETY COACH!

Sheesh, Readers, talk about a frigging writer’s block. I wrote Part I of this 2-part post back on December 19. Over a month ago. If you’ve read me before, thanks for hanging in there. If you are a first-time reader, welcome. Enough already. Let’s get on with what I think are some valuable, easy-to-learn, easy-to-maintain, easy-to-perform under stress in real situation Fighting Arts that you can teach your children at home. Teach them these arts and I damn near guarantee your child will be able to:

1. Prevent the bully from selecting him or her as a victim.
2. Delay and discourage even the preliminary stages of a physical attack.
3. But, if the attack comes, repel the assault and easily escape and evade injury

STEP 1. (RE) READ PART I. The 12/19 article suggested some key steps, including taking on the role of your child’s Safety Coach and teaching him or her Tough Target Skills that, if adopted, will create an aura that will not make him an easy target for bullying.

STEP 2. NEGOTIATE A PLEDGE FROM YOUR CHILD that he is willing to do whatever it takes, within reason, of course, to make a bully go away. After all, Bully-Be-Gone Tactics requires, more than even ability, a readiness and WILLINGNESS to do what it takes. Standing up to a bully, after all, takes courage, make no mistake. Taking a pledge from your son or daughter that they will take their training seriously and commit themselves to it, is a very, very big step toward achieving the ultimate goal, which is to make the bully go away, forever (and, oh, how liberating a feeling that will be!)

STEP 3. MAKE THIS TRAINING A FAMILY DEFENSE PLAN. Make standing up for oneself and defending oneself family values.

STEP 4. PARENTS, BE SAFETY COACHES. If you read Step 1, you know this. If you did not, read it now.

STEP 5. DEVELOP AND TEACH FROM A LESSON PLAN OF FIGHTING SKILLS. Make sure the skills you arrive at are simple, easy to learn, based on symmetrical, gross motor skills, are easily doable under stress, and, since many of these might be exercised in the school environment where a zero-violence policy exists, injury-friendly.

HAMMER’S BULLY-BE-GONE COUNTER-BULLY SUCCESS FORMULA

1. BREATHE DON’T FREEZE!. Teach your child that the first thing they need to do when attacked is to fight the natural urge to freeze and hold his or her breath. 98% of victims do this, which is why they are victims. Tactical breathing sends oxygenated blood to the brain.
2. VERBALIZE. Nine out of 10 victims not only freeze but say nothing as the bully invades his or her space. Tell the bully that you intend to stand up for yourself. Ask him to step back; tell him to step back and then warn him to get back before you counter attack.
3. CONTROL YOUR SPACE. Personal space is a fighting issue and the bully will attempt to immediately Depreciate the Victim by stepping in to his or her PSZ (Personal safe Zone). Breathe, Talk, Establish a Balanced Ready Stance, and Move is the correct sequence here.

Ø Breathe

Ø “”George, I told you, get back!”

Ø Balanced posture, strong foot back, knees bent, eye contact and weak hand up near face.

Ø Move diagonally to maintain your distance (5 to 6’).

1. HAVE A GAME PLAN. Teach your child some reasonable escape and evasion tactics. Key here is your child needs to have a number 1 plan of action as well as a back-up plan (failure plan). Once he or she loads the plan in his or her brain, he or she is Spinal Tuned for action. If she/he has no plan, there is a good chance he or she will freeze like a deer in the headlights when an attack comes).
2. LOAD “SURPRISE” INTO THE GAME PLAN. Especially if your child is not well physically equipped for dominating a fight, surprise is a key to victory. A few notes about “surprise” at the end of this article.
3. SET THE BAD GUY BACK ON HIS/HER HEELS. Take the fight to the bully before he can take the first swing! The bully has chosen your kid, most likely because she or he feels your kid is an easy target. Invoke “Surprise” by taking the initiative. Knowing when to “take the fight to the bully” is a key, of course:

Ø AFTER THE BAD GUY THREATENS YOU.

Ø AFTER THE BULLY SHOVES YOU.

IØ AFTER THE BAD GUY POKES YOU WITH HIS OR HER FINGER (IN THE CHEST).

Ø AFTER THE BULLY DISREGARDS YOUR REQUEST TO “STAY BACK.” IF AND WHEN THE BULLY STARTS STRIDING TOWARD YOU WITH MENACING BODY LANGUAGE!

1. USE REALISTIC AND EFFECTIVE ESCAPE & EVASION TACTICS:

Ø KEEP MOVING, HANDS UP.

Ø MIRROR CALM. LOOK FEROCIOUS, THINK FEROCIOUS. DO NOT COMMUNICATE FEAR.

Ø TIE THE BULLY UP (MAKE SURE TO GET YOUR ARMS ABOVE HIS/HERS).

Ø ONCE YOU HAVE HIM TIED UP, DRIVE YOUR TOE HARD SEVERAL TIMES INTO HIS/HER LOWER SHINS.

Ø THIS WILL MAKE HIM LOOSEN OR DROP HIS GRIP ON YOU. “OPEN HIS DOOR” BY PLACING YOUR WEAK HAND ON HIS OPPOSITE SHOULDER AND YOUR STRONG HAND ON THAT HIP AND SHOVE DOWNWARD AND BACK AT A 45 DEGREE ANGLE.

Ø STEP THROUGH THE OPEN DOOR AND GET OUT OF DODGE.

Next Post: The Element of Surprise and Bully-Be-Gone.

Until then, Stay Safe.

HAMMER

ACTION AGAINST VIOLENCE

December 19, 2009

BULLY-BE-GONE!  PART I – WHAT CAN YOU DO AS A PARENT?

Not that I haven’t talked about this issue before, but, Hell’s Bells, readers, bullying is not only not going away, but, doesn’t it seem to you that it’s getting worse and worser?  I mean, a gang of bullies sets a teenager on fire!  And, in my area here, big kids are still beating on weaker kids; and when they get tired of beating on the weak, they recruit more bullies and attack the not-so-weak.

Fact is, bullying is an all too common form of violence in our society.  I’d estimate that over 30% of students are either bullies or victims.  And, parents, I could go into a lot more stats re bullying.  Its pernicious effects on both the victim and the bully. The psychological scars it leaves on the victim, scars that never, ever go away.

But, as a parent of a child who is getting bullied, do you really truly care about statistics?, I think not.  At least I wouldn’t.  “Just tell me what the hell to do, Dickwad,” is what I’d be saying.

So, okay, okay, I’ll tell you.  And I’ll start from the beginning, just in case you suspect something is awry, but you’re not sure what.  First of all, you need to be aware. Staying tuned in to your child is a big first step.  Don’t expect him or her to confide in you what is going on unless your child feels that you are tuned in and simpatico.

1. BE AWARE AND SIMPATICO RE YOUR CHILD.
2. BE AWARE OF CHANGES IN HIS/HER ATTITUDE AND/OR BEHAVIOR. For instance, a child who normally does well in school, maybe even enjoys going to school, suddenly becomes reluctant to go, maybe even gets withdrawn, depressed.  Stops doing homework.
3. ASK COGENT QUESTIONS. Mayhap not straight out “Hey, are you getting bullied? questions, but questions that show an interest in what is really happening at school.  Who is she/he hanging with.  Try not to let the child get away with vague answers.
4. ONCE YOUR SUSPICIONS ARE CONFIRMED (even if your child doesn’t clearly admit he/she is being bullied, but your suspicions are realistic, reasonable and based on an “educated intuition). CONTACT THE SCHOOL AND LET THEM KNOW.
5. TAKE ON THE ROLE OF YOUR CHILD’S SAFETY COACH. Trust me on this, you can teach your kid great counter bullying skills and techniques at home.  I do a great Bully Be Gone class, but, even when I teach that course I let the parents know that my class cannot be truly effective unless they follow-up with some support at home.  Safety Caches can teach their child some really effective skills that have worked for other children, or Would-Be Victims, including:

• TOUGH TARGET ATTITUDES. Attitude is damn near everything when it comes to discouraging a bully from even choosing your child as a victim!  In the case where your child has already been a repetitive victim, this is going to be harder, but it can work.  TTA manifest themselves when you teach your child to:
  • Walk/stride confidently, swinging your arms freely (the freer and more natural the swing the less fearful). Believe me or not, oftentimes, when you can get your child to physically mimic or replicate the attitudes and mannerisms of a Tough Target Kid, it actually inculcates and absorbs into the psyche of the youngster.  Your kid can actually convince him/herself, along with the potential bully, that he IS a Tough target Kid!
  • Scan your environment with your eyes.
  • Stand Up For Yourself. Tell the bully, “Hey, I don’t appreciate what you just said.”
  • LOOK BORED, DISINTERESTED, DEPRECIATE THE VERBAL ICON! Okay, so the bully needs to see fear in your child’s eyes.  Too bad for this numnutz.  Teach your child to Depreciate whatever the bully does or says.  By depreciating his/her words (The Verbal Icon) and/or actions, your child will be empowering him/herself while disempowering the Bully! Oftentimes, the bully will break off any planned attack.  Often, this might piss off the bully, but the child who seems disinterested and uneffected by the bully will put the bully back on his or her heels, and, all that needs too be done, is quickly distract the child, make a quick move, and get out of Dodge (see Part II).
  • SOFT EYE CONTACT. See more in Part II, but Soft Eyes restricts eye contact to an invisible triangle from the upper cheeks to the chin.  This way your child can see any movements by the hands, arms, and torso.
  • Don’t Let the Bully Back You Up. Teach your kid to protect his/her space. Do not allow the bully to invade his or her Personal Safe Zone (3-4’ in).  Teach your child to move diagonally (J-Step) to keep his or her space, but, at some point, it is up to your child to tell the bully to “Stay back!”
  • VERBALIZE. The Bully, like many other predators, is seeking to find fear in your kid’s eyes.  The bully may be posturing for an audience to prop himself, his image, up.  If your child stays silent, the bully is spurred on.  Teach your kid to verbalize in three stages:
  • Ask. “Hey, Andy, c’mon,  How about letting me go to class.  We can do this later, if you still want.”
  • Tell:  “Andy, I don’t appreciate being called that.”
  • Command.  “That’s it.  Get back.  Now!”

• TEACH YOUR CHILD THE FIGHTING ARTS. Tune in for Part II, where I will talk about some reasonable and easily doable (as well as easy-to-teach) skills designed to Stop The Bully In His Tracks.

Until then, Stay Safe

Hammer

ACTION AGAINST VIOLENCE

September 23, 2009

MANAGING WORKPLACE VIOLENCE

My last post – let’s face it – was basically me venting after the senseless murder of a Yale graduate student – a woman – in the supposedly high security lab environment of that esteemed university. The police have dubbed the murder as workplace violence, and, although I don’t completely agree, I posted a monograph on Woman and Workplace Violence (WPV). As I promised at the end of that post, let’s talk a bit about how to effectively deal – on a personal level – with people and events that seem to be cascading toward all –out violence on the job site.

FACTORS THAT PLACE WORKERS AT RISK FOR WPV.

v Contact with the public.

v Responsibilities include the exchange of money.

v The delivery of passengers, goods and/or service.

v Working alone or in small numbers.

v Working with volatile, unstable person(s), et al.

v Working late at night or in the early morning hours.

v Working in a high crime area.

v Guarding valuable properties, including drugs, etc.

v Delivery of home care services.

As you may have noticed, only two of those factors existed relative to the murder of Ms. Lee. She was working alone and she was working in the same location as what turned out to be a volatile, unstable person.

RECOGNIZING THOSE RED, RED FLAGS.

If at all possible, of course, work in the company of people whom you trust. More likely than not, if Ms. Lee had, the angry, emotionally disturbed and volatile person would have stewed in his own rage for a while and gone on his way, leaving Ms. Lee unharmed.

However, if you read my last post (Lust Or WPV?), you might be aware that homicide is the number one cause of death for women (in the workplace). You would also know that incidents of stalking, rape, sexual assault, and other types of violence are visited on women in alarmingly increasing numbers.

My point: Even if she would have gone to the Yale lab with one or two friends, the perpetrator likely would have attempted to stalk, trap and attack Ms. Lee when she was alone and vulnerable.

What then are some of the Red Flags, or Signatures of Danger, you can use to help you profile someone you want to either stay clear of, or, more likely, prepare a self defense plan against?

v A history of violence, stalking, etc. (The Perp in this case had this history).

v He/She has stalked or harassed another worker in the past.

v Some or Many of your co-workers communicate that they also feel uncomfortable around this person.

v The worker is almost always rigid, inflexible, intransigent in how he/she handles work and social-related issues.

v Displays signs of chronic sadness, hopelessness, depression.

v The worker often states his or her hopelessness.

v The worker identifies with past perpetrators of spectacular WPV.

v A Fascination with guns and other weapons.

v Reacts poorly to criticism.

v Projects blame onto others.

v Sees himself as being on a One-Man Crusade.

Ok, so you recognize several of these factors, plus, importantly, you and others feel terribly uncomfortable around the worker, plus, and now I refer to the Yale Incident, he strides toward you, his face contorted in rage, his fists clenched, and he is about to invade your PSZ (Personal Safety Zone).

What do you do?

Stay Tuned For the Next Post. Until Then, Stay Safe.

Hammer

THIS will work for teachers but will likely be even more effective for school resource officers and workplace security officers. The Five Step Hard Style is central to the impressive Verbal Judo subject-control curriculum and is ingeniously engineered to influence 99% of Difficult People to do what you want him or her to do in such a way and in such a manner that the disturbed Person/Student believes that it is his or her idea in the first place.

The Five Step is designed to generate voluntary compliance – as opposed to expecting compliance from workers, students and others based simply upon one’s position of authority. It is custom made to work positively against the negative center of a disruptive or difficult person/student.

THE FIVE STEP

STEP 1. ASK INSTEAD OF COMMAND. I believe it is axiomatic that difficult students/people are psychologically, physically, and philosophically incapable of doing what they are told to do. Period. End of equation. However, research shows that 96% of difficult people will do what they are asked the first time they are asked.  Think of how you feel and how you often react when you are told tersely to do something and do it now.

STEP 2. SET CONTEXT. EXPLAIN. Often, you and other authority figures probably don’t feel it necessary to explain to a (subordinate) subject why you are commanding him or her to do something. Think of this for a second. Why? Is the central question in a democracy, and democracy was won the hard way a couple centuries ago by Difficult People who refused to do what they were told. Studies and empirical evidence proves that when asked to do something, and when asking fails, explains why, Difficult People will voluntarily comply 97% of the time.

STEP 3. GIVE THE DIFFICULT PERSON OPTIONS. Every Difficult Person needs to perceive he or she has a say, one way or the other, in what happens to him/her. 98-99% of Difficult People will comply when asked to do something, when the reason for the “request” is explained, and, finally, when the authority figure (teacher, parent, security) allows the perception that he or she has a choice. I always try to say something like, “Sir, you have some good options here. You can (one or two good options), or you can continue to rant and rave and you will give us no choice but to restrain you and escort you to lock-up. Dude, think about it. Do you really need that kind of problems today? It’s up to you—“ In the end, it’s always up to the disruptive person, or, at leasxt that’s the perception I wish to generate.

STEP 4. CONFIRM. The objective of Step 4 is to confirm for the record that the person/student does not intend to comply. When you confirm for the record you are laying the foundation for any physical action you might be forced to use to attain control over the disruptive student/person.

“Jon, is there anything I can do or say to get you to go along with the program today? I sure hope so.”

You got to admit, the Confirmation Statement is both convincing and compelling. I have seen hardened gang- bangers drop their Tough Guy Act and actually comply, so stunned were they at an officer’s cool Confirmation.

But, in the case of the remaining 1%, there is always Step 5.

STEP 5. TAKE ACTION. One of the primary reason the 5-Step Hard Style works so well, if you ask me, is that each independent and linear step is increasingly mind-numbing to the Difficult Person. Why? Most disruptive people/students – when they are in the midst of perpetrating mischief and mayhem, never, or maybe rarely expect the authority figure (teacher or officer)to be reasonable, respectful and/or nice! And make no mistake about it, defusing a disruptive student is all about Being Nice!

But another reason the 5-Step works is the relentless truth that, at the end of the day, limits that have been set, options that have been given, and consequences that have been alluded to, must be enforced. So, after you ask the Confirmation Question and the doofus refuses to comply, you must take whatever action protocol or common sense calls for.

And, if you are cringing because you detest using force, or, more likely, are concerned that the school district or work place will question your use of force and/or why you felt compelled to use it, let me do my best to put those worries to rest. The Five Step will give any teacher or security officer the most crucial element of any legal defense or questioning regarding his or her use of force.

PRECLUSION. Which, simply put, means you can show, beyond a reasonable doubt, or at the very least, by a preponderance of the evidence that you did everything within your ability and power to preclude the use of force. You asked him/her nicely; you explained to the student why; you explained to the student what options he/she had (and the consequences for not choosing the compliant alternatives); and you confirmed nicely that he did not intend to comply.

Until Next Time, Stay Safe.

Hammer

TARGETS AND HOW TO HIT THEM

A week or so ago I talked about the various Primary and Secondary Targets that a potential victim can strike, kick, gouge or leverage, as well as our personal weapons we can use to win a life or death fight, or just to escape a scrape with your body intact.  It occurred to me that maybe I should briefly elaborate one or two ways to most effectively do this.  Here are a few examples of how you can put an attacker down, if not out your own personal body parts.

EYES       Hook fingers inside mandible and gouge either or both eyes using your thumbs.  Will

                   Result in the attacker immediately letting go of any body part he is holding and grabbing at his eyes.  This is a primary target, so, if you can follow up with another strike, you are almost always home free.  Another method is the Tiger Claw, which consists of crashing the heel of your palm into the subject’s chin and driving the head “off” his neck, following up by driving the fingers into his eyes.

NOSE    Drive a Hammer Fist strike down onto the nose or drive a Palm Heel Strike up through the Blind Spot that extends from his solar plexus to his nose into the nose.  Will cause great pain, an immediate debilitating watering of the eyes, and, usually, instant cessation of fighting.  Always follow up with a flurry of other strikes and kicks as his head drops.

CHIN    A strong Palm Heel Strike or Horizontal Elbow Strike will often stun an attacker.  If you can drive the chin and jaw up toward the nose, you can do significant damage.  Once again, always follow up with other strikes. 

THROAT  This is a Primary Target because a solid strike with even a glancing blow can put the Bad Guy quickly out of action.  Hit the throat with a Beak Strike, Web Strike, or with the Ridge hand.  Peruse past posts for more details and descriptions of these strikes.  A strike to the throat will prevent the Bad Guy from breathing and must be followed up with other merciless strikes.  Also, any Improvised Weapon, such as a cell phone, paperback book, car keys, whatever, will work wonders if driven hard into the throat!

JUGULAR NOTCH  is a fantastic Pressure Point located directly beneath the Bad Guy’s Adam’s Apple.  Just hook your middle two fingers in the “notch,” and drive the fingers in and down—hard!   Done right, the Bad Guy will grab his neck, choke, and start backing away.

EARS  are secondary targets, but don’t minimize their impact value.  Slap the palms of both hands hard against the ears and the subject may suffer disorientation and pain.  Now, as he reels, hit him again in one of the many open targets.

BACK OF HEAD AND NECK.  There may be times when the attacker is pulling you in to him and he exposes the back of his head and/or the top of his spine.  The harder you can drop a personal weapon or two onto that target the more stunned will the Bad Guy become.  When he is stunned is the time to follow-up with another blow, most likely an Ascending Knee Strike into the Descending Head!  Your best bets to hit the back of head target would be a Double Descending hammer Fist Strike (clasp both hands together, raise them up and drop them as a unit hard onto the target), or a Descending Elbow Drop.

CLAVICLE.  A Descending Elbow Drop onto one of the clavicles can do considerable damage.  Make sure you drive the Tip of the Elbow as hard and direct as possible into this target.  You can also use a Single Descending Hammer Strike.  Best to follow up with an Ascending Knee Strike into the groin.

FOREARMS, WRISTS AND HANDS.  If the Bad Guy has grabbed you, it’s a simple matter of dropping  the bony parts of your forearm as hard and as often as you can onto his forearms, wrists and hands.  Doesn’t sound like much in this venue, but, if you try it and make sure you aim your impact point through the target instead of bouncing off of it, I am sure you will see how effective it can be.  

GROIN.  Another Primary Target.  If it is open, it can easily be hit, if you don’t telegraph the incoming strike.  Ascending Knee Strike; Ascending Shin Kick; Universal Strike; or dropping your fist hard into the groin as the Bad Guy pulls you in, all can work.  Tips include not looking at the target (telegraphing)m before you strike.  Even a fake knee strike will always cause the Bad Guy to immediately bring both hands toward his crotch – an instinctive move – which will also open up other targets.

Next Post:  More Targets.  More Methods.

Until then.  Stay Safe.  Hammer

YOU GOTTA KNOW THE TARGETS

My last post spoke of the efficacy of learning principles over techniques.  This post, I thought I could talk about one of the key principles of my many self defense training programs (Kid Escape/Counter Abduction Techniques/Comet Kids/Advanced Fighting Arts For Women/Sixty and Beyond for Seniors, etc.):

Primary Principle:  There will always be Open Targets.  Concentrate on hitting the most valuable (Primary Targets) Targets.  If Primary Targets are not immediately open, always hit Secondary Targets to force the Primaries to open.

Elaborating on this principle:  If a Bad Guy grabs you with both hands, every conceivable target is open!  As long as his hands are on you, he/she can not use them with which to strike you and he cannot use them to block.  Granted, if he or she is stronger than you and he has your arms and hands tied up, you will have difficulty using them to strike.  But, need I remind you that your hands are not your only striking levers?

PERSONAL WEAPONS

Your personal weapons include anything on your body with which you can hit the attacker.  They include the:  Front and Back of your head.  The Head Butt has been known to shock, stun and even knock an attacker unconscious.  Other Personal Weapons include your:

• Teeth.
• Shoulders.
• Buttocks ( a nicely timed butt-strike can knock a rearward attacker back a step or two).
• Elbows.
• Forearms.
• Hands/Heel of palms/Fingers/Fingernails/Backs of Hands.
• Knees.
• Shins.
• Feet.

There are other personal and Improvised Weapons I could go into, but, suffice to say that virtually anything can work to free you from a jam.  But, since Personal Targets are the theme here, let’s delve into that area for a minute or two:

SECONDARY TARGETS

Secondary Targets are body zones you can hit with very little difficulty.  However, striking a ST will rarely end a fight in your favor.  Hitting ST’s, however, will open up the Primary Targets:

• Top of the Feet,
• Toes of the Feet.
• Ankles.
• Shins.
• Knees (Knees can also be a Primary Target.  I say, if the knees are open, always go for them.  Striking a knee with a good kick can drop a Bad Guy instantly!).
• Inner and Outer Thighs.  The Femoral Nerve Motor Point is halfway between the groin and the knee.  Common Personeal is on the outside.  Hitting either or both can stun an attacker.
• Bladder.
• Stomach.
• Solar Plexis.
• Floating Ribs.
• Ears.
• Nose.
• Forearms and Wrists.
• Fingers.
• Chin.

PRIMARY TARGETS

Once again, the key is to hit one or more of the many Secondary Targets, many of which should be easyto hit.  Follow up immediately as other targets inevitably open up.  Train yourself to concern yourself with these targets, even if you are also being hit at the time.  Targets are the key!

• GROIN.
• EYES.
• THROAT
• *NOSE
• *KNEES.

Kneeing the groin, gouging an eye, and/or driving the ridge of your hand or your fingers into the throat will cause an immediate sensory breakdown.  The once confident attacker will now have problems seeing you, will be hard pressed to breathe, and/or will start to fold toward the ground.  Whether hitting the attacker’s nose or knees, however, may not have the immediate affects of the first three targets, but the Bad Guy will experience great not only great pain, but will experience watering of the eyes and disorientation (nose) and will fold quickly to the ground (knees).

During my self defense trainings, one scenario is a realistic one where the attacker grabs the woman or teen (SD For Women and/or COMET Kids) with one hand and starts to pull the “victim” toward him (the attacker).  The response I always hope for and every once in a while actually see is the “victim” grabbing the Bad Guy’s hand and holding it to his or her (the “Victim’s) body with the opposite hand (so the Bad Guy can not use that hand to block or strike) and then shooting the same side hand into the attacker’s face several times since the attacker lost the ability to block any incoming strikes once he/she elected to grab his/her intended victim.

Until My Next Post, Stay Safe.

Hammer

THE INTERVIEW

Almost every attack begins with The Interview.  Which is when the attacker does three things:

• Makes his or her final decision that you are his or her ideal victim.
• Uses words to distract you.  Maybe a simple question, a request, but the intent is toxic, maybe deadly:  To get you looking away, at something else, to split your mind and body away from the moment.
• To built the ground he needs to propel him into you for the attack/

I say, then, that, since that is the case, we need to prepare ourselves for The Interview, maybe even more than we need to get ourselves ready to fight.  Maybe, if we can survive The Interview, we can evade and escape the inevitable attack. 

Ok, then, how do we do that?

• Step 1: Get Our Heads Straight!  Think like a Tough Target.  Realize that you don’t know this person and that he/she is talking to you like he/she definitely knows you. 
• Step 2:  Refuse or Say “No!”  Make it clear you do not want to be “interviewed.”  Take a step back and get into a ready stance (hold your purse like a weapon; give him/her a Felony Stare, your power foot back).  If you refuse, or say “no!” and she/he refuses to back off or desist, you know you are dealing with an attacker.  Normal people know how to take “no!” for an answer.
• Step 3:  Always Control Your Space.  Sure as I am sitting here in my skivvies, the attacker will follow up The Interview by invading your personal space.  State clearly:  “Stay Back!”
• Step 4:  Nearest Weapon, Nearest Target.  This really is not Step 4.  This should be done as soon as the potential attacker begins The Interview.  Make certain your hands are positioned correspondent to where his or her hands are.  If and when his/her hands move, so do yours.  Remember:  Wherever the other person’s hands are is the Nearest Weapon, which means whatever of your body parts are correspondent to those hands is your Nearest Target.  Protect that target and you will send a subconscious message to the other person that you are ready.
• Step 5:  BE WILLING.  If you’ve been following my blog, you probably know already that it is more important to be willing than it is to be able.  Therefore, make your decision now what you (are willing to) are going to do.

      IF IT IS FIGHTING YOU DECIDE TO DO - 

Ø     Breathe Tactically.

Ø     Take the Fight to the Interviewer First.  Put the element of surprise in your corner; get him or her on the backs of his feet.

Ø     Or. Counterattack early and often.

IF IT IS NOTHING YOU DECIDE TO DO.

Good Luck, and, until next time, Stay Safe!

Hammer

Ok.  You’ve made yourself into a Tough Target, followed the Principles of Avoidance, but, crap, the guy has entered your PSZ (Personal Safe Zone) and looks like he’s about to do some damage.  How could this happen?

There could be any number of reasons why a super-focused predator would attack, so, fact is, crap happens, so we have no choice but to deal with it. 

So, question is, what do you do?

And the answer will always be, it’s totally up to you.

In the mere millisecond or so you are going to have to act, it is you who must be willing to act decisively.  Probably a disappointing answer if you are looking for a blueprint for self defense.

If you beg for your life and you survive, that was the best strategy.

If you run and scream for help and help comes, that was the right strategy.

If you fight and live to tell about it, that was the right strategy.

However, I will say this.

• The chances for survival goes up exponentially if you

Ø     Have a friend with you (a 75% better chance, as a matter of fact).

Ø     Have taken a good self defense course (and actually practiced the moves).

Ø     Immediately go into a fighting stance and shout with authority a confident “No,” or “Get back!”

Ø     If you have to use force, your chances of surviving go up exponentially when you use the element of surprise (which I have detailed many times in past posts), and

Ø     Hit open targets and continue hitting targets as they open up until the threat is over!

• I know all this is over simplistic, but, believe me, what I say is true.  The decision to beg or fight is up to you entirely.  Perhaps you will do both.  Yes, that is what I said.  I teach this in my Self Defense for Women classes.  Tactical Begging actually works because it cues into the predator’s expectations, influences him to lower his guard, which is when you can lash out and:

• Gouge his eyes with your thumb and/or fingers.
• Crush his throat with a Web Strike; Beak Strike or Ridge Hand Strike (see past posts).
• Impale your knee into his groin, and, when his hands and head drops, grab him by the back of the head and drive your knee into his face.
• Drive your temple directly onto his nose and follow that with a knee strike to the groin.
• If he grabs you  and pulls you in like he is going to hug you, pretend to go with it, lay your head on his shoulder while you reach around with your dominant hand, hook the fingers inside his jaw bone and drive your thumb into his eye.  Follow that baby up with whatever you want to, then, go home.
• Or, when he gets in too close and threatens to light you up, go into a Tactical Begging Stance, forming both hands into a prayerful appearance, then, when he least expects it, drive a horizontal elbow strike into his face and follow it up with a reverse elbow strike to the same face.

You got the idea,

Stay safe.

Hammer

PREDATOR BE GONE, PART III- Principles Of Avoidance

The S.H.A.R.P. (Sexual Harassment Assault and Rape Prevention) Principles of Avoidance chapter is pretty extensive, so I’m going to cut it down a bit.  The key, once again, is to understand that you can avoid sexual predators about 98% of the time by adhering to the simple principles I have detailed in this and the last two posts.  Ninety-eight per cent is pretty sweet, I think you will agree.  And in my fourth post on the subject I will discuss what to do if the other 2% goes down.

There are 3 Principles of Avoidance:  Know Your Limitations; Control the Environment and Control Your Fear. 

1. KNOW YOUR LIMITATIONS applies to understanding your personal strengths and weaknesses.  A key issue is Physical Appearance.  Your physical appearance is often the most important factor leading to you being either selected or rejected as a victim.  Fact is, gender, height, weight, apparent strength and fitness, and age play a major role in you being selected or not.  If you read my last post (June 6) and note the segment on recreating yourself into a Tough Target, you can almost guarantee that you will not be selected based on your physical appearance! 

An extension of physical appearance is voice pitch and an ability to maintain a calm, but authoritative tone.  Voice tone and pitch can quickly communicate your confidence (or, of course, anxiety) within seconds of first encountering an assailant.

1. CONTROL THE ENVIRONMENT should not be taken literally, but it means simply that you need to understand how and when to avoid the environment entirely, and how to use the environment, if and when you do enter, as an advantage to help you escape to help you retreat, or, if necessary, prevail.  For the sake of brevity, I’ll sum up the guidelines:

1.  
   • Check Out the Outside of the Environment Before Entering.  Look for unsavory people/person eyeballing you, etc.  Is the establishment you are thinking of entering appear to be isolated, difficult from which to escape?
   • Check Out the Inside of the Establishment Before Going Too Deep.  Stop, look and Listen.  Trust Your Gut Feelings about the place (could be an elevator, also).  Assess the people/person occupying the place.  Is the place going to be difficult from which to retreat?  Do/does the people/person appear to be hostile?
   • Identify Barricades:  If you must enter this questionable environment, identify furniture  and other objects which can be used to place/throw between you and an assailant.  If you have to move tactically or run, certain objects can be thrown at the assailant’s feet to slow him down.

1. CONTROL YOUR FEAR.  You need to understand that the phenomenon of fear is closely associated with how you mentally prepare yourself for the possibility of defending yourself against an assailant.  Yes, the Survival Psyche, or Mental Conditioning, when we come down to the bottom line, often is what will determine your fate.  The world is a circle, and, so, my friends, is the element of survival.  If you followed my posts, you know I believe that 98% of survival is awareness, preparation and avoidance.  Failing those keys elements, though, you are going through life oblivious to people and circumstances surrounding you.

Surprise and Shock, then, will be your dominant mental and physical reaction to a spontaneous, close quarter attack (an attack you would have detected long before it became spontaneous and close-quarter combat) Here’s the thing:  when you become surprised or startled by an unexpected threat perception, fear manifests and activates your Sympathetic Nervous System, which, means, when that happens to your unprepared mind, to put it as succinctly and as bluntly as possible, you are indeed screwed!

Ø        Under SNS you will lose your ability to make life preserving decisions.  More likely than not, you will freeze in place, be unable to move tactically, and whatever moves you do make will be guided by irrational thoughts!

Ø        Under SNS your eyesight and ability to hear will be diminished.

Ø        Your heart rate and respiration will increase greatly and so will the element of panic.

Ø        Your physical actions will be those of a true victim, which is why the predator who is attacking you chose you in the first place.

Ø        ARE YOU GETTING THE IDEA?

Bottom Line:  When you are mentally prepared for anything, surprise is a limited possibility.  But even when “surprise” happens, you are ready for it, and, therefore, you are in control of your fear!

In Part 4, we discuss what to do when the Bad Guy has you cornered.

Until then, Stay Safe.

Hammer