PACE – An Equation for Managing Workplace Violence.

SET THE P.A.C.E. – A Guide For Managing Critical Threat in the Workplace.

 

I’ve been examining some protocols and procedures for managing critical incidents (my terminology, not theirs), and, while they are commendable, I believe in Verbal Judo’s paradigm (I am a former Advanced verbal Judo Instructor) for managing potential catastrophic (critical) incidents. P.A.C.E. is a flexible and enduring set of principles for handling the critical incident in a school place or other type of workplace that can be effective in resolving almost any crises I have come across.

 

A Critical Incident, by the way, is a term I use to describe a situation or scenario where a worker, administrator, student, client or patron, or the perpetrator himself has been killed, or, more likely, the threat of death or serious injury exists. Three examples that come immediately to mind are a hostage situation, an enraged intruder with a gun and/or a worker threatening to take his or her life, and, by definition one or two others down with him. What follows is a procedure that has saved lives in these and other critical incidents.

 

P.A.C.E.

 

PROBLEM. The responding person (security, Resource Officer, employee, or responding law enforcement) needs to ask him/herself and/or the agitated person exactly what is the problem here? Determine not only what is the problem from your perspective, but that of the perpetrator, also.

 

AUDIENCE. What role is the audience playing in the severity of this problem? Moreover, what danger is the audience in if they are allowed to remain on the scene? And, of course, what, if anything can be done to remove or at least neutralize the audience?

 

CONSTRAINTS. Now ask yourself primarily what is or are the constraint(s) that is or are blocking you from resolving this problem? Is there anything you can do to use this constraint to resolve this issue? What can be done to work around this constraint(s)?  I will point out how I suggest you can use constrainst to resolve a situation in a future post.

 

ETHICAL CONCERN. What do you, the responder, have to do to create the needed empathic or ethical perception to affect the agitated person? One needs to adopt a compassionate, caring and genuine ethical presence, yet remain in control of the situation.

 

SPECIFIC WORKPLACE STRATEGIES TO MANAGE AN INSTRUDER OR WORKER WITH A GUN.

(As an Example)

 

  1. Assess the Situation.
  2. Notify Police. Provide as much cogent information as possible. Be prepared to act as a liaison.
  1. a) Who is the gunman?
  2. b) Where is he located?
  3. c) Description of the weapon(s).
  4. d) Evidence that the gun is loaded? Has he discharged the weapon? What has his actual threats been?
  5. e) Are there any injured/dead victims?
  6. f) Is there a targeted victim on the scene?
  7. g) Any pertinent background information on the perpetrator?
  8. h) Quoted reasons or speculated reasons why person is carrying the weapon or plans to shoot?
  1. Isolate the individual or suspect.   Cut and Herd the Audience.
  2. Confer with police once they arrive. Allow them t  o instruct you and others on how you should proceed and how they intend to proceed.
  3. Independent of the police, if interaction with the perpetrator is imminent, do not use force or touch the person or weapon.
  4. Avoid sudden moves or gestures (I always say, “Slow It Down!”).
  5. Remain Calm. Keep voice void of fear or panic. Your tone and/or demeanor will strongly influence the outcome.
  6. Allow one other administrator know about the situation. But limit information to staff and workers on a need-to-know basis.
  7. Use pre-designed emergency signals to 0notify staff of the situation.  Deside whether to Lock Down or Evacuate.

 

QUICK GUIDELINES FOR HANDLING A WEAPON-WIELDING WORKER.

  • EVACUATE THE AREA.
  • EVALUATE THE PERP.
  • ISOLATE THE PERP.
  • NEGOTIATE.
  • REMAIN CALM.
  • GET HELP.
  • AVOID HEROICS.
  • DO NOT THREATEN.
  • KEEP A SAFE, NON-INTIMIDATING DISTANCE.
  • SLOW IT DOWN. AVOID ABRUPT, SPORADIC MOVEMENTS.
  • USE BARRICADES IN THE ENVIRONMENT FOR COVER.
  • REPORT INCIDENTS TO LAW ENFORCEMENT.

 

Until the next post, Stay Safe.

 

HAMMER

Self Defense For Women: Task Oriented Targets

The Fighting Arts for Women – Target-Focused Survival.

You might not know much about survival stress, but, for the sake of brevity, let me just say that once you are attacked from close quarters – especially a spontaneous, surprise attack – your SNS (Sympathetic Nervous System) will flood your entire system with stress hormones, which, again to keep it brief, will pretty much shut down your ability to think exactly when you need to think and act as well and as quickly as possible.

Assuming you are not preparing yourself to respond quickly (fight) every time you answer your door; every time you turn a blind corner; every time you get into or go out of your car; every time you walk down a darkened street where escape routes and barricades are few and far between you need to rely on Principles of the Fighting Arts. Principles are great because they are designed to serve you well no matter what the circumstance.

TIME PROVEN AND RELIABLE PRINCIPLES.

1. Breathe Tactically Upon First Touch (understand that 9 out of 10 victims freeze when first touched and understand that you require oxygenated blood flowing to your brain to act).
2. Use First Touch as a Trigger to Explode Into Action.
3. Always Look For Open Targets and Hit Them Hard and Hit Them Often.
· There are other key principles, but let’s focus on this principle.
· Assuming you are not training hard in the Fighting Arts, you must rely on your eyes Many victims close their eyes and just flail away in a slapping motion. Please resist this urge. Keep your eyes open, keep breathing, and become—
· Task Oriented. You can do this. You must do this. Seeking out Primary and Secondary Targets is within your power, no matter how much stress you are under. If the Bad Guy has both your arms under control, ask yourself If he’s using both hands, well, heck, what targets can he be blocking? The answer: Zero! A Bad Guy can only block two or three possible targets at any one time.
· STAY FOCUSED. There may be times when the Bad Guy has your striking levers tied up, but, if you stay focused and take your punishment for a while, one or more of the following targets will open up. Wait, keep breathing,.

TARGETS.

Ø Eyes.
Ø Throat.
Ø Groin.
Ø Knees.
Ø Nose.
Ø Ears.
Ø Temple.
Ø Back of Head.
Ø Chin (at the hinge).
Ø Sides of Neck (Brachial Plexus Nerve Motor Point).
Ø Jugular Notch (just below Adam’s Apple).
Ø Clavicles (easily assesses and easily broken).
Ø Forearms.
Ø Wrists.
Ø Top of Hands.
Ø Fingers (twisted/broken).
Ø Stomach.
Ø Obliques (Pinch the “love handles” when the Bad Guy grabs you from behind).
Ø Kidneys.
Ø Insides and outsides of thighs (Femoral Nerve Motor Point and Common Peroneal Nerve Motor Point).
Ø Back of Legs (Tibial Nerve Motor Point).
Ø Upper, middle and lower shins (Superficial Peroneal Nerve Motor Point).
Ø Top of feet.

I might have missed one or two. Fact is, as you can see, there are a bajillion targets you can hit. Hit a target well and other will open up.

Good Luck. Stay Safe. Until Next Time.

Hammer
Peroneal Nerve Motor Point).
Ø Top of feet.

I might have missed one or two. Fact is, as you can see, there are a bajillion targets you can hit. Hit a target well and other will open up.

Good Luck. Stay Safe. Until Next Time.

Hammer

SHATTERING THE STALKER’S SCRIPT

KNOW YOUR ENEMY and you shall own him, a great warrior once said and I’m here to tell you that Tsun Tse’s words are true. So, let’s take a sec and look at the Psychology of the Stalker when he’s on the street.

  • He depends on victim compliance.
  • He almost always has a pre-planned strategy, or even a fantasy script. He spends an amazing amount of time planning the attack. The thrill of the kill plays a big role in the entire “game” he plays.
  • When he approaches his target, the longer this script is allowed to play out, the more confident and powerful he feels. The bolder he will become.
  • The stalker is often stunned and confused by any quick, decisive action (counter-measure) that violates his “script.”
  • Many stalkers lose interest during the initial “testing” stage when his victim refuses to act like the victim in his script.
  • Real-Time Stalkers always have a Victim-Profile in mind.

 

The Mindset that Shatters the Stalker’s Script.

 

  • She refuses to be tested.
  • She always controls her space. No one gets in unless she wants him or her to, and that never includes a stalker!
  • Establishes a defiant “combat stance” when the stalker invades her space. Not only that, she is willing and able to act rude, arrogant and profane.
  • She always has a plan. She anticipates (If “A” happens, I will do “B.” If “B” does not work, I will never give up and I will do “C.”
  • She verbally confronts harassment as soon as it begins (“testing” begins as harassment).
  • Even though she is feeling fear, she gives the appearance of defiance and confrontation.
  • She is willing to do anything it takes to survive.

 

PROCEDURES OF PROTECTION AGAINST STALKING.

 

  1. If you believe you’re being stalked, break off your route (he has already marked you as an ideal victim and is following you to see if you enter a low-witness area, which is what his scripted victim would do. Change directions, cross the street, or enter a public building. Watch the stalker from the safety of the building (unless he follows you into the building. If so, seek security).
  2. After a time, if you do not see the stalker, you can exit the building, making sure he is no longer there (chances are, he won’t be. You have screwed up his “fantasy script.”).
  3. If he is still around, establish eye contact and look defiant. Make him aware you know what he is up to!
  4. When possible, stay in a high-witness area. If he returns and is tracking you, he will match your pace.
  5. This is the time you have to tell yourself that this is it. Prepare yourself. And the best way to prepare yourself for the coming stalker-testing, invasion of your personal space, and eventual attack is:
    • Prepare a pithy, dismissive verbal response now.
    • Prepare a flexible physical fighting plan now (Note: I did not say Counter Attack Plan. You might want to attack him before he can strike or grab you).
    • You will require 110% Commitment To Survival. Giving up when your first plan of action does not dispatch him.

 

Until Nest Time, Stay Safe.

Hammer.

STALKER BE GONE

WHEN it comes to stopping a stalker, making him or her gone, it is best to cut your losses and make the stalker disappear out of your life at the earliest possible moment following the realization that you are dealing with one in the first place. You might be thinking easier said than done, but, hell, Dog, it doesn’t seem to me you have any choice, unless, that is, you feel like being harassed and eventually vandalized, assaulted, maybe even killed. No brainer, far as I’m concerned, If you agree, read on:

 

First of all, some pithy and prophetic axioms of stalking:

 

  • Men who can’t let go chose women who can’t say no.
  • The nicer the rejection, the more the stalker will interpret it as affection.
  • The best way to stop contact with a stalker is to stop contact with a stalker.

 

Secondly, how about a few Stalker Danger Signs:

 

  • Stalker will research his/her victim early. An example of this might be the stalker asking others at a party questions about the eventual victim.
  • Stalker is overly invested. An example of this might be meeting a man or woman and the same night receiving three or four messages from him/her.
  • Refusal to accept “no.” The stalker will negotiate and argue when his/her victim says he or she is not interested.
  • Hyper-Attentiveness.
  • Early on the victim feels uncomfortable about the stalker and his/her actions, mind set, etc.
  • Early on, stalker offers unsolicited help. Tries to get self invested in victim’s life.
  • Stalker projects emotions, feelings, actions ON TO THE VICTIM that are not present.
  • Stalker romances victim at a mind-numbing whirlwind pace.
  • Stalker monitors victim’s activities, whereabouts, etc.
  • Hyper-Jealousy.
  • Isolates victim from family and friends.
  • Refusal to hear “no!”

 

SUGGESTIONS FOR STOPPING THE STALKER:

 

  1. Contact police or trusted authority figure ASAP.
  2. MAKE REJECTION FINAL!
  3. Make it clear that you are breaking it off because of his/her actions, not because of another suitor/you just want to be friends because you are not ready/whatever. Again: You do not want to see the stalker because of his or her actions!

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Hammer Note: Maybe a little insight into the way a stalker thinks will help here: If you say, “I’m sorry, Betty/Bruce, but I don’t think we should see each other any more. I met a man/woman at work and we just fell in love. I didn’t want it to happen, but it did—“ Trust me, the stalker will immediately think: Ok. Fine. All I have to do is make this new guy simply disappear and she will be mine, all mine! Again. It has to be cold and it has to be final!

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  1. If the above 3 tactics fail, make it tougher for the stalker to contact you, to track you. Change your phone numbers. Leave work at different times. Change your patterns.
  2. After you break it off, and he calls – and, believe me, he or she will call – do not answer his calls and do not return his or her messages, no matter how many times he or she calls. If, after the 300th phone call, you finally pick up the phone and say “Gees, Chuck, how many times I have to tell you not to call me any more?” the only thing that will register is that you answered his/her call. The stalker will not hear the secondary rejection. He now knows your initial rejection was insincere, and, also, it will take 300 phone calls to get through to you.
  3. Document everything and work with police.

 

WHAT ABOUT A PFA OR A RESTRAINING ORDER. For the serious stalker who has made a very large personal and emotional investment in you, he or she is hooked, addicted to you. Sadly, this route will probably not work. As a matter of fact, this kind of control freak can become seriously deadly when his or her victim obtains a PFA or Restraining Order.

 

What About Asking A Friend To Confront the Stalker.  Have Him or Her Warn Him To Stop?  The idiotic, brain-damaged stalker wil interpret this action as a sign that his girlfiend is conflicted; otherwise, he will think, she qwould have told me herself.  And the police cannot intervene at this point either because he has broken no laws.

 

Until Next time, Stay Safe.

 

Hammer

ON STALKING

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND STALKING

ACCORDING To the Violence Against Women Grants Office’s 2ND Annual Report to Congress (circa 2000), “survey results indicate that stalking is a much bigger problem than previously assumed.” Well, about 10 years later, we now know how serious stalking is.

STALKING IS (as defined by most states) “the willful, malicious, and repeated following and harassing of another person” Some states throw in activities such as lying in wait, surveillance, nonconsensual communications, telephone harassment, and vandalism. Moreover, stalking usually requires a “course of conduct directed at a specific person that involves repeated – two or more – visual or physical proximity, nonconsensual communications, verbal, written, or implied threats, or a combination thereof—-causing the person to feel a high level of fear or bodily harm.”

THE SURVEY FOUND that 8% of all women and 2.2% of all men surveyed were stalked at least once in their lifetime. Thirty-eight per cent of stalking victims included wives; 10% were partners; 14% were stalked after a date or a few dates; 4% were relatives; 19% were female acquaintances (34% were male acquaintances); and 23% of women were stalked by a male stranger. Interestingly, 36% of males reported being stalked by a female stranger.

THE REPORT goes on to outline victim service providers and how they can be expected to increase their outreach to stalking victims to help these victims, assist police and prosecutors in building stalking cases, etc. I suggest, if you are a victim of stalking, that you take it seriously – I don’t have the statistics in front of me, but, believe me, if not fractured early, there is a geometric progression of aggression in the Stalker’s Cycle. Law enforcement, the Courts and the Criminal Justice System itself – along with these victim outreach program can and will help to break that vicious cycle and get you back to a normal and safe life.

BUT I MUST WARN you, the criminal justice system can get the job done, if what you want is your stalker to be targeted, intervened upon, arrested and prosecuted. And for 97-98% of the cases, if you follow through all the way until sentencing (and beyond – when he or she is released on parole or probation, even), you’ll get your wish. Of course, if you’ve done the math, you might be asking me right now, “Uhh, Hammer, that’s lovely, but, that still leave 2 to 3% of the stalkers out there that a PFA (Protection From Abuse) Order and Criminal Justice intervention won’t stop. What works with them, and who the heck are these “3-Percenters, anyway?”

Next Two Posts: The 3 Percenters and How To Stop Him (Her). Until then, Stay Safe.
Hammer

Fake It ‘Til You Make It, Baby!

NEVER underestimate the role your mind plays in survival motor skills. The connection between the brain and your physical actions during a life or death fight against a determined attacker is absolutely crucial. Ergo, if you believe you are going to lose, if you don’t have a pre-determined plan of action, or, if you have a plan but you don’t believe in it, you are going to lose. That simple.

 

TAKE IT one step further. If you have a Negative Nexus between mind and body, as described above, and, as in most self defense situations, you are fighting a larger, stronger, meaner and totally A-social foe, you will absolutely be destroyed in place.

 

SO, here is the dealio. We are going to win this fight, despite the disparity in strength, size and mentality. Whatever. And how are we going to do this, you ask? We are going to learn from the Negative Nexus and try on a Positive Nexus for size.

 

I always have believed in the importance of Mental Conditioning. I have a lot of experience at it, by the way. A lot. Point a gun at a target and imagine that you are pointing your finger at what you want to hit, and wham, bullseye. Believe that you can de-escalate a scene and, whoosh, the scene is cool.

 

CAN YOU think of a situation when you believed you could do something that others thought you couldn’t? How’d it turn out? Pretty swell, huh? Same thing for self defense.

 

Believe in yourself. Believe in a pre-determined Plan of Action and stay committed to it. Look at the Bad Guy as a series of closed and open targets, not some terrifying-looking behemoth. Condition yourself mentally by:

 

  • Cycle Breathing and giving your self Positive Self Talks.
  • Have a pre-determined survival plan. Believe in that plan and stay committed to it.
  • Expect the Unexpected so you are never surprised.
  • Ask yourself “What (would I do) If (such and such) happened?”
  • Commit yourself Never To Give Up. Never!

 

Stay Safe Until Next Time.

Hammer

 

 

 

NEVER underestimate the role your mind plays in survival motor skills. The connection between the brain and your physical actions during a life or death fight against a determined attacker is absolutely crucial. Ergo, if you believe you are going to lose, if you don’t have a pre-determined pan of action, or, if you have a plan but you don’t believe in it, you are going to lose. That simple.

 

TAKE IT one step further. If you have a Negative Nexus between mind and body, as described above, and, as in most self defense situations, you are fighting a larger, stronger, meaner and totally a-social foe, you will absolutely be destroyed in place.

 

SO, here is the dealio. We are going to win this fight, despite the disparity in strength, size, A-social mentality. Whatever. And how are we going to do this, you ask? We are going to learn from the Negative Nexus and try on a Positive Nexus for size.

 

I always have believed in the importance of Mental Conditioning. I have a lot of experience at it, by the way. A lot. Point a gun at a target and imagine that you are pointing your finger at what you want to hit, and wham, bullseye. Believe that you can de-escalate a scene and, whoosh, the scene is cool.

 

CAN YOU think of a situation when you believed you could do something that others thought you couldn’t? How’d it turn out? Pretty swell, huh? Same thing for self defense.

 

Believe in yourself. Believe in a pre-determined Plan of Action and stay committed to it. Look at the Bad Guy as a series of closed and open targets, not some terrifying-looking behemoth. Condition yourself mentally by:

 

  • Cycle Breathing and giving your self Positive Self Talks.
  • Have a pre-determined survival plan. Believe in that plan and stay committed to it.
  • Expect the Unexpected so you are never surprised.
  • Ask yourself “What (would I do) If (such and such happened?”
  • Commit yourself Never To Give Up. Never!

 

Stay Safe Until Next Time.

Hammer

 

 

 

NEVER underestimate the role your mind plays in survival motor skills. The connection between the brain and your physical actions during a life or death fight against a determined attacker is absolutely crucial. Ergo, if you believe you are going to lose, if you don’t have a pre-determined pan of action, or, if you have a plan but you don’t believe in it, you are going to lose. That simple.

 

TAKE IT one step further. If you have a Negative Nexus between mind and body, as described above, and, as in most self defense situations, you are fighting a larger, stronger, meaner and totally a-social foe, you will absolutely be destroyed in place.

 

SO, here is the dealio. We are going to win this fight, despite the disparity in strength, size, A-social mentality. Whatever. And how are we going to do this, you ask? We are going to learn from the Negative Nexus and try on a Positive Nexus for size.

 

I always have believed in the importance of Mental Conditioning. I have a lot of experience at it, by the way. A lot. Point a gun at a target and imagine that you are pointing your finger at what you want to hit, and wham, bullseye. Believe that you can de-escalate a scene and, whoosh, the scene is cool.

 

CAN YOU think of a situation when you believed you could do something that others thought you couldn’t? How’d it turn out? Pretty swell, huh? Same thing for self defense.

 

Believe in yourself. Believe in a pre-determined Plan of Action and stay committed to it. Look at the Bad Guy as a series of closed and open targets, not some terrifying-looking behemoth. Condition yourself mentally by:

 

  • Cycle Breathing and giving your self Positive Self Talks.
  • Have a pre-determined survival plan. Believe in that plan and stay committed to it.
  • Expect the Unexpected so you are never surprised.
  • Ask yourself “What (would I do) If (such and such happened?”
  • Commit yourself Never To Give Up. Never!

 

Stay Safe Until Next Time.

Hammer

AUTOMATIC DECISION POINT: KNOWING WHEN TO FIGHT!

ONE CRUCIAL CONCEPT that all too often escapes many martial arts and self defense instructors is exactly how and when do you know that all the bull crap – the pre-attack posturing, intimidation, testing and what not – has ended and the bad ass is about to throw the first punch?

 

THOUGHT I would share with you, then, some of my sure-fire signs that a fist or foot is about to be introduced to your face or ass. What do you think?

 

HAMMER’S SURE-FIRE SIGNS A FIST OR FOOT IS ABOUT OPEN UP A CAN OF WHUP-ASS!

“HIT HIM NOW” SIGNS. When the following phenomenon occur, these are Decision Points! Stop Thinking and Hit Him Square and Hit Him Fast!

 

  • 3 MAJOR SIGNS THE FIGHT IS ON.”
    1. Body Language.
      • Ø The Hiatus: The Bad Guy goes quiet, looks away for a second, then turns back to you, followed by a
      • Ø Target Stare. The Bad Guy will look at wherever he is going to strike you a second or so before he does it.
      • Ø The Finger Jab. The Bad Guy is “testing the waters.” If you do nothing, you are telling him “c’mon in. The waters fine.” Like I said in the lead in to these factors, hit him now!
      • Ø The Shove. According to Jacov Bresler, an Israeli self defense guru, “a shove is always followed by a punch.”
      • Ø The Chin Drop. Jacov Bresler also propounds that the Chin Drop is the Bad Guy’s instinctive act of protecting his or her neck and that a Chin Drop always means trouble.
      • Ø The Initial Strike. Never allow the Bad Guy to strike you – even when the hit appears to be semi-harmless – without you counter punching immediately! If he strikes you once, there is little doubt that he will hit you again, this time harder.

 

  1.   The Threat.
  • Ø A threat is always a Signature of danger. A Red Flag you must heed.
  • Ø Many novices do nothing when faced with an obvious
  • Ø A distinctive threat (as opposed to one you think is one implicitly) is a sign the Bad Guy is ramping up his courage, confidence and emotions to give him the wherewithal to carry out an attack.
  • Ø Things will escalate fast following a threat!

 

  1. Sudden Silence.

 

  • Ø Sudden Silence is a reliable Signature Of Danger because—
  • Ø The Bad Guy is holding an internal dialog about what he is about to do to you.
  • Ø Fighting Arts Rule: Fighters do not talk and fight.

 

BANG HIM UP WITH AN AUTOMATIC RESPONSE.

 

  • Key Elements That Create An Automatic Decision Point, at which point you need not to think about it. Just Bang Away>
    • Ø The Combination of Bad Body Language, A Verbal Threat and Sudden Silence, plus—
    • Ø When the Bad Guy moves inside your PSZ (Personal Safety Zone), especially after you warned him: “Hey, man, stop. You don’t need to come any closer!” Any “normal” dude will stop right then and there. If he keeps on coming, nail him right there! Thing is, though, even though I am advocating lashing out when he penetrates your PSZ, you must mentally prepare (Spinal Tune) yourself as he begins to step in.
    • Ø Your gut-instincts are going hay wire. Danger! Danger!).
    • Ø CROSSING THE LINE. The key here is to define a “Line” that the Bad Guy has to cross for you to automatically respond. On one side of that line, the person is just an annoying jerk; but, when he crosses that “line,” he becomes a Bad Guy.

 

Not only does this knowledge prepare you with an Automatic Response that will help to ameliorate any indecision (indecisiveness gives the appearance of weakness to a Bully), it will also alleviate the fear that you can be arrested and charged with assault. This fear is justifiable; and it is a fear most criminals and bullies do not share. In my mid, they are A-social animals who rarely share your concerns and values. But, think of it, if you follow The Hammer’s rationale, you have observed his body language, have asked him and warned him nicely not to come any closer, and, in contrast, he, the attacker, has ignored your warning, has threatened you, has moved closer, has jabbed his finger into your chest and maybe even struck you before your righteously retaliated.

 

Until next time, Stay Safe.

 

Hammer

AUTOMATIC DECISION POINT: KNOWING WHEN TO FIGHT!

ONE CRUCIAL CONCEPT that all too often escapes many martial arts and self defense instructors is exactly how and when do you know that all the bull crap – the pre-attack posturing, intimidation, testing and what not – has ended and the bad ass is about to throw the first punch?

 

THOUGHT I would share with you, then, some of my sure-fire signs that a fist or foot is about to be introduced to your face or ass. What do you think?

 

HAMMER’S SURE-FIRE SIGNS A FIST OR FOOT IS ABOUT OPEN UP A CAN OF WHUP-ASS!

“HIT HIM NOW” SIGNS. When the following phenomenon occur, these are Decision Points! Stop Thinking and Hit Him Square and Hit Him Fast!

 

  • 3 MAJOR SIGNS THE FIGHT IS ON.”
    1. Body Language.
      • Ø The Hiatus: The Bad Guy goes quiet, looks away for a second, then turns back to you, followed by a
      • Ø Target Stare. The Bad Guy will look at wherever he is going to strike you a second or so before he does it.
      • Ø The Finger Jab. The Bad Guy is “testing the waters.” If you do nothing, you are telling him “c’mon in. The waters fine.” Like I said in the lead in to these factors, hit him now!
      • Ø The Shove. According to Jacov Bresler, an Israeli self defense guru, “a shove is always followed by a punch.”
      • Ø The Chin Drop. Jacov Bresler also propounds that the Chin Drop is the Bad Guy’s instinctive act of protecting his or her neck and that a Chin Drop always means trouble.
      • Ø The Initial Strike. Never allow the Bad Guy to strike you – even when the hit appears to be semi-harmless – without you counter punching immediately! If he strikes you once, there is little doubt that he will hit you again, this time harder.

 

  1.   The Threat.
  • Ø A threat is always a Signature of danger. A Red Flag you must heed.
  • Ø Many novices do nothing when faced with an obvious
  • Ø A distinctive threat (as opposed to one you think is one implicitly) is a sign the Bad Guy is ramping up his courage, confidence and emotions to give him the wherewithal to carry out an attack.
  • Ø Things will escalate fast following a threat!

 

  1. Sudden Silence.

 

  • Ø Sudden Silence is a reliable Signature Of Danger because—
  • Ø The Bad Guy is holding an internal dialog about what he is about to do to you.
  • Ø Fighting Arts Rule: Fighters do not talk and fight.

 

BANG HIM UP WITH AN AUTOMATIC RESPONSE.

 

  • Key Elements That Create An Automatic Decision Point, at which point you need not to think about it. Just Bang Away>
    • Ø The Combination of Bad Body Language, A Verbal Threat and Sudden Silence, plus—
    • Ø When the Bad Guy moves inside your PSZ (Personal Safety Zone), especially after you warned him: “Hey, man, stop. You don’t need to come any closer!” Any “normal” dude will stop right then and there. If he keeps on coming, nail him right there! Thing is, though, even though I am advocating lashing out when he penetrates your PSZ, you must mentally prepare (Spinal Tune) yourself as he begins to step in.
    • Ø Your gut-instincts are going hay wire. Danger! Danger!).
    • Ø CROSSING THE LINE. The key here is to define a “Line” that the Bad Guy has to cross for you to automatically respond. On one side of that line, the person is just an annoying jerk; but, when he crosses that “line,” he becomes a Bad Guy.

 

Not only does this knowledge prepare you with an Automatic Response that will help to ameliorate any indecision (indecisiveness gives the appearance of weakness to a Bully), it will also alleviate the fear that you can be arrested and charged with assault. This fear is justifiable; and it is a fear most criminals and bullies do not share. In my mid, they are A-social animals who rarely share your concerns and values. But, think of it, if you follow The Hammer’s rationale, you have observed his body language, have asked him and warned him nicely not to come any closer, and, in contrast, he, the attacker, has ignored your warning, has threatened you, has moved closer, has jabbed his finger into your chest and maybe even struck you before your righteously retaliated.

 

Until next time, Stay Safe.

 

Hammer

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When All Else Fails: Counter-Abductor Tactics (CAT)

February 9th, 2009

HERE comes the tough part for parents. Parents who have taken on the role of Safety Coaches. Parents who’ve tught their kids skills and techniques to avoid the adult predator, a set of principles and values to adhere to help their child to escape and evade miscreants who stalk our schoolyards and neighborhoods.

 

IF you are a Safety Coach for your child, more likely than not you have made every effort not to frighten your child.(see the last post) when you advocate tactics to avoid child predators..

 

BUT now it’s time to go one step further. You have to teach your kid(s) what to do if and when the Bad Guy (BG) actually grabs him or her. What do to when everything you’ve imparted to them – things about which I have written in past posts – have gone south (things like being observant; ignoring the adult when he speaks; keep moving; indirect eye contact; never ever leave the original scene with the BG, et al).

 

WHAT TO TEACH YOUR CHILD TO DO WHEN THE PREDATOR GRABS HIM/HER.

 

  • BREATHE and, THINK. The BG wants you to freeze and become a “piece of wood” that he can easily carry off to a secondary crime scene.
  • HAVE A PRE-DESIGNED PLAN OF ACTION. Trust me, if your child has no escape or fight plan, I have no doubt he or she will not be able to come up with a plan when the BG grabs him/her (First Touch). The heart rate will explode beyond 200 BPM and the child will freeze in place, becoming the Ideal Victim.
  • KEEP TALKING.   The BG wants a victim who is not only an “inanimate object,” but also a quite one at that.
  • INVITE WITNESSES. On the off-chance there are other adults or children nearby, let them know you are in trouble. “Help me, he is not my father!”

PHYSICAL COUNTERMEASURES: Delaying the Predator in the Crime Scene.

  • PUT OUT THE FIRE. John Hall, the ingenious founder of Kid Escape, advocates that children be taught to perform acts designed to delay the predator’s ability to drag their victims away from the crime scene based on his understanding that the BG’s objective is speed, silence and victim-inactivity. Using fun training games, teach your child to pretend his or her’s shirt is on fire and he has to roll on the ground to extinguish it. Roll away from the BG.
  • HUG LIKE A BUG. “Putting Out the Fire” is a great delaying tactic, plus, it is not easy for an out of shape adult to capture the child when he is rolling on the floor. However, eventually he will catch the kid. When he does reach down to grab the child, teach him or her to roll toward him and quickly hook his or her hands around one leg and his or her feet around the other. Shrimp up, duck his or her head and hold on for dear life.
  • SELF DEFENSE IS NOT AN INJURY-Free Activity. Yes, if you are wondering, the abductor, desperate now, will likely try to strike and kick the kid, probably will drag him or her along the ground trying to dislodge the child. Teach your child that the objective is to make the BG spend as much time and energy in the initial scene, betting that the delay will force him to break off the attack. As hard as this will be, and as frightening is the prospect, teach the child that the primary goal is to remain in the First Place and to never, ever leave the scene with the predator, even if it means suffering injury.
  • TARGET THE NOSE, EYES, THROAT. Conventional self defense against an adult predator is futile. But Safety Coaches can teach their child how to effectively gouge eyes, head butt noses and drive a good Beak Strike, Web Strike or Side Hand into a throat. Great primary targets that even children can strike (or even bite) when the BG leans in to carry him or her off (More about the fabulous Beak and Web Strikes in a future post).
  • HOOK ONTO TO ANYTHING TO KEEP FROM BEING CARRIED OFF. Children can save themselves by using the Hug Like a Bug tactic to keep from being dragged off a chair, a bicycle, a bed, etc. Grab onto the object and hold on for dear life. Make the BG pick you and the bike, bed, chair, whatever and tote it to his car. Grab a tree branch, tree trunk, Stop Sign, telephone pole on your way to his car, also.
  • FIGHT HIM EVEN IF HE GETS YOU INTO HIS CAR:
  • Ø Make yourself into dead weight as he carries you, and, then, as he tries to shove you into the car, twist and spin and try to drop, just like a cat who doesn’t want to be held.
  • Ø When he opens the door he has to ease up his grip on you. Drop your head and upper torso forward and down quickly. At the same time twist and squirm, and for a second you will slide a bit. Now, quickly, hook onto his belt or waist with your hands and slide toward the ground. Work your way down and now grab onto one of his legs and slide down. I call this Drop, Lock and Roll. If done right, the child can slide all the way down the BG’s leg, hook onto the ankle with his or her hands, and, eventually drop his or her legs until he or she can hook them around the other leg.
  • Ø The Element of Surprise. The BG, if he is not expecting this, and, who would? Will be weakened by this act.
  • Ø If the BG tries to throw the child into the front seat feet first and is holding his around his or her midsection, the child can delay the predator again, this time by placing the feet against the front seat and pushing backwards. He or she can also grab the seat belt at the top of the apparatus and hold on to that.
  • Ø Hug Like A Bug Again. Once again, the idea here is to delay the BG at the scene and/or to make the BG break off the abduction by being a Bad Victim. Remember: Teach your kid to act exactly the opposite of how the Ideal Victim (IV) would act. Remember, the IV is passive, compliant, frightened and silent. The BG wants nothing to do with a “crazy kid,” who makes a lot of noise; makes eye contact; acts defiant and makes a loud Here is your child’s opportunity to Make a Scene:
  • Use the metal “male” portion of the seat belt to block the door from closing.
  • Once the door is closed, but before he can seat belt the child (if he tells the kid to belt himself in, refuse), teach the child to “act” passive and contrite and to lay his or her head on the BG’s shoulder (after all, this is what he wants).
  • When the BG relaxes, the child should crawl into the BG’s lap (I know, crazy, right?).
  • And, ASAP, the child Hugs the BG Like a Bug, face to face. He or she can bite, head butt, reach and grab the keys from the ignition and toss them into the back seat. Fight for his or her life.
  • The predator now has two choices:
  • Ø Allow the crazy kid to leave (Role Play with your child. Teach him how to unlock a passenger car door).
  • Ø Drive off with a Crazy Kid hooked to him, face to face (how far do you think he would get on the road?).

Until the next post. Stay Safe.

 

Hammer

When All Else Fails: Counter-Abductor Tactics (CAT)

HERE comes the tough part for parents. Parents who have taken on the role of Safety Coaches. Parents who’ve tught their kids skills and techniques to avoid the adult predator, a set of principles and values to adhere to help their child to escape and evade miscreants who stalk our schoolyards and neighborhoods.

 

IF you are a Safety Coach for your child, more likely than not you have made every effort not to frighten your child.(see the last post) when you advocate tactics to avoid child predators..

 

BUT now it’s time to go one step further. You have to teach your kid(s) what to do if and when the Bad Guy (BG) actually grabs him or her. What do to when everything you’ve imparted to them – things about which I have written in past posts – have gone south (things like being observant; ignoring the adult when he speaks; keep moving; indirect eye contact; never ever leave the original scene with the BG, et al).

 

WHAT TO TEACH YOUR CHILD TO DO WHEN THE PREDATOR GRABS HIM/HER.

 

  • BREATHE and, THINK. The BG wants you to freeze and become a “piece of wood” that he can easily carry off to a secondary crime scene.
  • HAVE A PRE-DESIGNED PLAN OF ACTION. Trust me, if your child has no escape or fight plan, I have no doubt he or she will not be able to come up with a plan when the BG grabs him/her (First Touch). The heart rate will explode beyond 200 BPM and the child will freeze in place, becoming the Ideal Victim.
  • KEEP TALKING.   The BG wants a victim who is not only an “inanimate object,” but also a quite one at that.
  • INVITE WITNESSES. On the off-chance there are other adults or children nearby, let them know you are in trouble. “Help me, he is not my father!”

PHYSICAL COUNTERMEASURES: Delaying the Predator in the Crime Scene.

  • PUT OUT THE FIRE. John Hall, the ingenious founder of Kid Escape, advocates that children be taught to perform acts designed to delay the predator’s ability to drag their victims away from the crime scene based on his understanding that the BG’s objective is speed, silence and victim-inactivity. Using fun training games, teach your child to pretend his or her’s shirt is on fire and he has to roll on the ground to extinguish it. Roll away from the BG.
  • HUG LIKE A BUG. “Putting Out the Fire” is a great delaying tactic, plus, it is not easy for an out of shape adult to capture the child when he is rolling on the floor. However, eventually he will catch the kid. When he does reach down to grab the child, teach him or her to roll toward him and quickly hook his or her hands around one leg and his or her feet around the other. Shrimp up, duck his or her head and hold on for dear life.
  • SELF DEFENSE IS NOT AN INJURY-Free Activity. Yes, if you are wondering, the abductor, desperate now, will likely try to strike and kick the kid, probably will drag him or her along the ground trying to dislodge the child. Teach your child that the objective is to make the BG spend as much time and energy in the initial scene, betting that the delay will force him to break off the attack. As hard as this will be, and as frightening is the prospect, teach the child that the primary goal is to remain in the First Place and to never, ever leave the scene with the predator, even if it means suffering injury.
  • TARGET THE NOSE, EYES, THROAT. Conventional self defense against an adult predator is futile. But Safety Coaches can teach their child how to effectively gouge eyes, head butt noses and drive a good Beak Strike, Web Strike or Side Hand into a throat. Great primary targets that even children can strike (or even bite) when the BG leans in to carry him or her off (More about the fabulous Beak and Web Strikes in a future post).
  • HOOK ONTO TO ANYTHING TO KEEP FROM BEING CARRIED OFF. Children can save themselves by using the Hug Like a Bug tactic to keep from being dragged off a chair, a bicycle, a bed, etc. Grab onto the object and hold on for dear life. Make the BG pick you and the bike, bed, chair, whatever and tote it to his car. Grab a tree branch, tree trunk, Stop Sign, telephone pole on your way to his car, also.
  • FIGHT HIM EVEN IF HE GETS YOU INTO HIS CAR:
  • Ø Make yourself into dead weight as he carries you, and, then, as he tries to shove you into the car, twist and spin and try to drop, just like a cat who doesn’t want to be held.
  • Ø When he opens the door he has to ease up his grip on you. Drop your head and upper torso forward and down quickly. At the same time twist and squirm, and for a second you will slide a bit. Now, quickly, hook onto his belt or waist with your hands and slide toward the ground. Work your way down and now grab onto one of his legs and slide down. I call this Drop, Lock and Roll. If done right, the child can slide all the way down the BG’s leg, hook onto the ankle with his or her hands, and, eventually drop his or her legs until he or she can hook them around the other leg.
  • Ø The Element of Surprise. The BG, if he is not expecting this, and, who would? Will be weakened by this act.
  • Ø If the BG tries to throw the child into the front seat feet first and is holding his around his or her midsection, the child can delay the predator again, this time by placing the feet against the front seat and pushing backwards. He or she can also grab the seat belt at the top of the apparatus and hold on to that.
  • Ø Hug Like A Bug Again. Once again, the idea here is to delay the BG at the scene and/or to make the BG break off the abduction by being a Bad Victim. Remember: Teach your kid to act exactly the opposite of how the Ideal Victim (IV) would act. Remember, the IV is passive, compliant, frightened and silent. The BG wants nothing to do with a “crazy kid,” who makes a lot of noise; makes eye contact; acts defiant and makes a loud Here is your child’s opportunity to Make a Scene:
  • Use the metal “male” portion of the seat belt to block the door from closing.
  • Once the door is closed, but before he can seat belt the child (if he tells the kid to belt himself in, refuse), teach the child to “act” passive and contrite and to lay his or her head on the BG’s shoulder (after all, this is what he wants).
  • When the BG relaxes, the child should crawl into the BG’s lap (I know, crazy, right?).
  • And, ASAP, the child Hugs the BG Like a Bug, face to face. He or she can bite, head butt, reach and grab the keys from the ignition and toss them into the back seat. Fight for his or her life.
  • The predator now has two choices:
  • Ø Allow the crazy kid to leave (Role Play with your child. Teach him how to unlock a passenger car door).
  • Ø Drive off with a Crazy Kid hooked to him, face to face (how far do you think he would get on the road?).

Until the next post. Stay Safe.

 

Hammer

Counter Abduction Tactics (CAT) For Kids

NOT too long ago a young boy was walking home with a hubcap he had found. A car pulled up and a man rolled down the window and, in his “nicest” voice, thanked the youngster for finding his hubcap. “Would you mind walking over here and handing it to me?” he sang.

 

THE BOY dropped the hubcap where he stood and said in his nicest voice, “here it is, sir.” And continued on his way home. When he arrived home, he did what I would have asked him to do in one of my CAT classes: he consolidated the tactic by telling his mother about what had happened. Predictably, when the boy and his mother walked back to the scene of the incident they found the hubcap where the boy had dropped it.

 

THIS brings up, then, exactly what tactics does CAT for Kids advocate to keep your children safe from the Chicken Hawks (child sexual predators and abductors)?

 

THE CAT FOR KIDS PARADIGM.

 

A caveat here. There are several CAT paradigms. Counter-Bully. Counter-Abductors. Escape and Evasion. Preventive. Physical Survival Strategies. What you are about to read represents Escape and Evasion Tactics relative to the Hubcap Scenario.

 

  • Safety Coaches (Parents) simply teach their child skills that the child is already good at.
  • Safety Coaches Must Not Frighten Their Kids with words, etc. “Never, ever do this. He will kill you, rape you, cut you up, etc!
  • Safety Coaches always supportive. Tactics designed to get you back to us because we love you. When child asks “Why would someone want to hurt me?” Make certain you (The Safety Coach) makes it clear that “I don’t really know, but it is not your (the child’s) fault. It’s the adult’s (the predator)!
  • SAFETY COACH TEACHES SKILLS THE CHILD IS ALREADY GOOD AT:
  • Ø Ignoring what an adult says. If that adult or older youngster is not on your Safe List (list of people who are totally safe to talk to. A very short list, by the way), do not engage in conversation.
  • Ø Turn Off Your Ears. No matter how nice he or she sounds.
  • Ø Trust your gut instincts. Kids are always saying, “I don’t know, Mom. He just gives me The Creeps,” when the kid doesn’t want to kiss or hug a relative or friend of the family. The Creeps are Gut Instincts and they are hardly ever wrong!
  • Ø The CAT Golden Rule: NEVER, EVER LEAVE THE FIRST PLACE WITH ANYONE, ESPECIALLY AN ADULT!
  • Ø Consolidate CAT. Tell a trusted second (adult) person ASAP about the adult who tried to get your to leave the first place with his or her’s seductive “story.”
  • Ø Consolidate CAT Rule Number 2 (Parents/Safety Coach must teach their child this). Move away when adult calls you by name, or addresses you in any way (do not follow your instincts and inquire how he knows you by name), even when he says your parents have been injured. Teach the child to say: “Thank you for telling me. I’ll go find mom and dad right now—“
  • Ø Safety Coach Says: Always Remember When Adult Starts talking To You:
  • Ø Keep Moving.
  • Ø But do not turn your back to him (Predator-Prey-Principle).
  • Ø It is not about you, honey. It is their sickness.
  • Ø Do Not Ask “Why?” The only question in your mind is How can I escape now?”
  • Ø If He “Has You and You Can’t Escape and Evade Him Right Now:
  • Sit down and stay in that public place. Help will come to you.
  • Hug Like a Bug, like a Sit-In Protest.
  • Sit-Ins are hard to pick up. If he does try to pick you up and carry you off, though—-woops. That is my next post:

Until Then, please Stay safe.

 

Hammer