Much of this is from Lori Hartman Gervasi, the author of “Fight Like a Girl…and Win.” I recommend this book to any woman, girl, boy or man who is interested in staying safe in this dangerous world. Before I picked up this book, however, I was teaching the concept of adopting a a Survival Psyche, or Mentally Conditioned (Tough) Attitude in my SD For Women classes and, as a matter of fact, to many of my safety and survival classes designed for (mostly) male police, corrections, security and probation and parole personnel.
Several officers over the years have told me that this warrior mentality helped them prevail during dangerous confrontation with bad guys.
According to Gervasi, in self-defense, each of our five senses is important, but what we do with our eyes is absolutely crucial. Take cats, for example. Cats are easily among the best fighters in the animal kingdom. They snap their heads to spot their foes. They move and they size up their foe, They silkily move forward, watching their enemy, reading him, reacting to him lightning quick. The cat never takes his eyes off the foe, ejecting his claws—
Cats have forever known that “the fight is in their eyes.”
How does this relate to you and self-defense? Simply put, you (we all do) are harboring this beast inside you. And this beast, or animal, is waiting for you to call him forth and to set him upon your enemy. Meaning, when you are attacked, like the women I spoke about in my last two posts, you can freeze, fail to breathe out of stark fear, or you can get angry and summon that beast now to give to the strength and power to fight for your life.
Or, you can summon that animal now! Now when you are not in danger. Which to me is what self defense is all about. Summon that animal and put it in your eyes!
Get that “fight” in your eyes so you can “Mad Dog” each and every man you see. This from Gervasi’s self-defense instructor, who went on to describe mad-dogging as staring into someone’s eyes in a deliberate way and then holding on for a bit. The message mad-dogging sends is: “I see you. I see you plain and clear. I will remember you and I will pick you out of a lineup if I have to. You stay right where you are and do not move because I am watching you. I don’t particularly like what I see, man, but make no mistake, I do see you.”
I have no doubt this strategy works. Not only will it work, it will change everything. Combined with great (confident) posture, a sure-footed, striding walk (again, think “cat”), and an overall awareness of your environment, mad-dogging will zing the predator considering you as a victim to back-off, probably choose another victim.
If your bad guy is one of those rare 1-percenters (bonafide, real killer bad guy), who will take the look in your eyes and your confident posture as a challenge, now this is when you must explode into action. You must have and act upon a Survival Plan of Action. More on that in a future post.
Next post. Staying Out of Jail. Legal Parameters to self-defense.
Until then, stay safe.