TO BE CLEAR. THEY ARE OUT THERE. Driving and/or walking around. Sharking out neighborhoods. Just the other day, in Bethlehem, Pa., a man tried on three or four occasions, to lure several different children into his car. He is still out there, driving around for all I know. Sharking (driving slowly back and forth, seeking a victim).
For years I have been urging parents to teach their children the easy skills I am going to advocate in the next few posts. Girls & women, by the way, can use these skills also to stay safe and/or evade and escape assailants and kidnappers.
Here we go. My Kid Escape (or, Date Escape) Program.
Stage I. THE PREVENTION STAGE.
You are going to say what I am going to advocate is common sense. True. But common sense, I always say, is the rarest commodity in a crisis. Chicken Hawks (child molestors) would never abduct or sexually assault one child if only parents and children exercised simple common sense. I advocate that parents take the role as their children’s safety coach, and coach their kids on some or all of these skills. Once again, you can scroll back on this blog site and get the scoop on how to ne a Safety Coach (or, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org).
- Teach your children the 4 A’s. This is crucial. Teach them to be Aware, to Assess their surroundings, to Anticipate (to ask themselves what will I do if that man comes at me) and to take Action (to run, hide or move toward safe people like a mother with children). There is more specific information and suggestions on the 4 A’s in past posts.
- PlAY THE “WHAT IF GAME” WITH YOUR CHILDREN. Mentally and psychologically “Spinal Tune” your child in to the Escape & Evasion activity by “playing” this game with him, her, them. Make it a fun game, but ask what would he/she do under certain scenarios. There are no “wrong” answers. But you can make cogent suggestions om the ideal escape & evasion tactic.\
- TALK, TALK AND LISTEN. Ask him/her questions in a non-imposing manner about what happened today. Encourage him or her to talk honestly. You will be surprised the important things you will learn. Always encourage them to talk about events.
STAGE II. KID OR DATE ESCAPE TACTICS.
In the next post, we go into what your child should do when he or she becomes aware of what I call an “Environmental Anomaly.” A man or woman on the scene that triggers his or her “Spidey Senses.” Potential danger lurks.
Until next time. keep your kids safe.