AUTOMATIC DECISION POINT: KNOWING WHEN TO FIGHT!

ONE CRUCIAL CONCEPT that all too often escapes many martial arts and self defense instructors is exactly how and when do you know that all the bull crap – the pre-attack posturing, intimidation, testing and what not – has ended and the bad ass is about to throw the first punch?

 

THOUGHT I would share with you, then, some of my sure-fire signs that a fist or foot is about to be introduced to your face or ass. What do you think?

 

HAMMER’S SURE-FIRE SIGNS A FIST OR FOOT IS ABOUT OPEN UP A CAN OF WHUP-ASS!

“HIT HIM NOW” SIGNS. When the following phenomenon occur, these are Decision Points! Stop Thinking and Hit Him Square and Hit Him Fast!

 

  • 3 MAJOR SIGNS THE FIGHT IS ON.”
    1. Body Language.
      • Ø The Hiatus: The Bad Guy goes quiet, looks away for a second, then turns back to you, followed by a
      • Ø Target Stare. The Bad Guy will look at wherever he is going to strike you a second or so before he does it.
      • Ø The Finger Jab. The Bad Guy is “testing the waters.” If you do nothing, you are telling him “c’mon in. The waters fine.” Like I said in the lead in to these factors, hit him now!
      • Ø The Shove. According to Jacov Bresler, an Israeli self defense guru, “a shove is always followed by a punch.”
      • Ø The Chin Drop. Jacov Bresler also propounds that the Chin Drop is the Bad Guy’s instinctive act of protecting his or her neck and that a Chin Drop always means trouble.
      • Ø The Initial Strike. Never allow the Bad Guy to strike you – even when the hit appears to be semi-harmless – without you counter punching immediately! If he strikes you once, there is little doubt that he will hit you again, this time harder.

 

  1.   The Threat.
  • Ø A threat is always a Signature of danger. A Red Flag you must heed.
  • Ø Many novices do nothing when faced with an obvious
  • Ø A distinctive threat (as opposed to one you think is one implicitly) is a sign the Bad Guy is ramping up his courage, confidence and emotions to give him the wherewithal to carry out an attack.
  • Ø Things will escalate fast following a threat!

 

  1. Sudden Silence.

 

  • Ø Sudden Silence is a reliable Signature Of Danger because—
  • Ø The Bad Guy is holding an internal dialog about what he is about to do to you.
  • Ø Fighting Arts Rule: Fighters do not talk and fight.

 

BANG HIM UP WITH AN AUTOMATIC RESPONSE.

 

  • Key Elements That Create An Automatic Decision Point, at which point you need not to think about it. Just Bang Away>
    • Ø The Combination of Bad Body Language, A Verbal Threat and Sudden Silence, plus—
    • Ø When the Bad Guy moves inside your PSZ (Personal Safety Zone), especially after you warned him: “Hey, man, stop. You don’t need to come any closer!” Any “normal” dude will stop right then and there. If he keeps on coming, nail him right there! Thing is, though, even though I am advocating lashing out when he penetrates your PSZ, you must mentally prepare (Spinal Tune) yourself as he begins to step in.
    • Ø Your gut-instincts are going hay wire. Danger! Danger!).
    • Ø CROSSING THE LINE. The key here is to define a “Line” that the Bad Guy has to cross for you to automatically respond. On one side of that line, the person is just an annoying jerk; but, when he crosses that “line,” he becomes a Bad Guy.

 

Not only does this knowledge prepare you with an Automatic Response that will help to ameliorate any indecision (indecisiveness gives the appearance of weakness to a Bully), it will also alleviate the fear that you can be arrested and charged with assault. This fear is justifiable; and it is a fear most criminals and bullies do not share. In my mid, they are A-social animals who rarely share your concerns and values. But, think of it, if you follow The Hammer’s rationale, you have observed his body language, have asked him and warned him nicely not to come any closer, and, in contrast, he, the attacker, has ignored your warning, has threatened you, has moved closer, has jabbed his finger into your chest and maybe even struck you before your righteously retaliated.

 

Until next time, Stay Safe.

 

Hammer

AUTOMATIC DECISION POINT: KNOWING WHEN TO FIGHT!

ONE CRUCIAL CONCEPT that all too often escapes many martial arts and self defense instructors is exactly how and when do you know that all the bull crap – the pre-attack posturing, intimidation, testing and what not – has ended and the bad ass is about to throw the first punch?

 

THOUGHT I would share with you, then, some of my sure-fire signs that a fist or foot is about to be introduced to your face or ass. What do you think?

 

HAMMER’S SURE-FIRE SIGNS A FIST OR FOOT IS ABOUT OPEN UP A CAN OF WHUP-ASS!

“HIT HIM NOW” SIGNS. When the following phenomenon occur, these are Decision Points! Stop Thinking and Hit Him Square and Hit Him Fast!

 

  • 3 MAJOR SIGNS THE FIGHT IS ON.”
    1. Body Language.
      • Ø The Hiatus: The Bad Guy goes quiet, looks away for a second, then turns back to you, followed by a
      • Ø Target Stare. The Bad Guy will look at wherever he is going to strike you a second or so before he does it.
      • Ø The Finger Jab. The Bad Guy is “testing the waters.” If you do nothing, you are telling him “c’mon in. The waters fine.” Like I said in the lead in to these factors, hit him now!
      • Ø The Shove. According to Jacov Bresler, an Israeli self defense guru, “a shove is always followed by a punch.”
      • Ø The Chin Drop. Jacov Bresler also propounds that the Chin Drop is the Bad Guy’s instinctive act of protecting his or her neck and that a Chin Drop always means trouble.
      • Ø The Initial Strike. Never allow the Bad Guy to strike you – even when the hit appears to be semi-harmless – without you counter punching immediately! If he strikes you once, there is little doubt that he will hit you again, this time harder.

 

  1.   The Threat.
  • Ø A threat is always a Signature of danger. A Red Flag you must heed.
  • Ø Many novices do nothing when faced with an obvious
  • Ø A distinctive threat (as opposed to one you think is one implicitly) is a sign the Bad Guy is ramping up his courage, confidence and emotions to give him the wherewithal to carry out an attack.
  • Ø Things will escalate fast following a threat!

 

  1. Sudden Silence.

 

  • Ø Sudden Silence is a reliable Signature Of Danger because—
  • Ø The Bad Guy is holding an internal dialog about what he is about to do to you.
  • Ø Fighting Arts Rule: Fighters do not talk and fight.

 

BANG HIM UP WITH AN AUTOMATIC RESPONSE.

 

  • Key Elements That Create An Automatic Decision Point, at which point you need not to think about it. Just Bang Away>
    • Ø The Combination of Bad Body Language, A Verbal Threat and Sudden Silence, plus—
    • Ø When the Bad Guy moves inside your PSZ (Personal Safety Zone), especially after you warned him: “Hey, man, stop. You don’t need to come any closer!” Any “normal” dude will stop right then and there. If he keeps on coming, nail him right there! Thing is, though, even though I am advocating lashing out when he penetrates your PSZ, you must mentally prepare (Spinal Tune) yourself as he begins to step in.
    • Ø Your gut-instincts are going hay wire. Danger! Danger!).
    • Ø CROSSING THE LINE. The key here is to define a “Line” that the Bad Guy has to cross for you to automatically respond. On one side of that line, the person is just an annoying jerk; but, when he crosses that “line,” he becomes a Bad Guy.

 

Not only does this knowledge prepare you with an Automatic Response that will help to ameliorate any indecision (indecisiveness gives the appearance of weakness to a Bully), it will also alleviate the fear that you can be arrested and charged with assault. This fear is justifiable; and it is a fear most criminals and bullies do not share. In my mid, they are A-social animals who rarely share your concerns and values. But, think of it, if you follow The Hammer’s rationale, you have observed his body language, have asked him and warned him nicely not to come any closer, and, in contrast, he, the attacker, has ignored your warning, has threatened you, has moved closer, has jabbed his finger into your chest and maybe even struck you before your righteously retaliated.

 

Until next time, Stay Safe.

 

Hammer

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When All Else Fails: Counter-Abductor Tactics (CAT)

February 9th, 2009

HERE comes the tough part for parents. Parents who have taken on the role of Safety Coaches. Parents who’ve tught their kids skills and techniques to avoid the adult predator, a set of principles and values to adhere to help their child to escape and evade miscreants who stalk our schoolyards and neighborhoods.

 

IF you are a Safety Coach for your child, more likely than not you have made every effort not to frighten your child.(see the last post) when you advocate tactics to avoid child predators..

 

BUT now it’s time to go one step further. You have to teach your kid(s) what to do if and when the Bad Guy (BG) actually grabs him or her. What do to when everything you’ve imparted to them – things about which I have written in past posts – have gone south (things like being observant; ignoring the adult when he speaks; keep moving; indirect eye contact; never ever leave the original scene with the BG, et al).

 

WHAT TO TEACH YOUR CHILD TO DO WHEN THE PREDATOR GRABS HIM/HER.

 

  • BREATHE and, THINK. The BG wants you to freeze and become a “piece of wood” that he can easily carry off to a secondary crime scene.
  • HAVE A PRE-DESIGNED PLAN OF ACTION. Trust me, if your child has no escape or fight plan, I have no doubt he or she will not be able to come up with a plan when the BG grabs him/her (First Touch). The heart rate will explode beyond 200 BPM and the child will freeze in place, becoming the Ideal Victim.
  • KEEP TALKING.   The BG wants a victim who is not only an “inanimate object,” but also a quite one at that.
  • INVITE WITNESSES. On the off-chance there are other adults or children nearby, let them know you are in trouble. “Help me, he is not my father!”

PHYSICAL COUNTERMEASURES: Delaying the Predator in the Crime Scene.

  • PUT OUT THE FIRE. John Hall, the ingenious founder of Kid Escape, advocates that children be taught to perform acts designed to delay the predator’s ability to drag their victims away from the crime scene based on his understanding that the BG’s objective is speed, silence and victim-inactivity. Using fun training games, teach your child to pretend his or her’s shirt is on fire and he has to roll on the ground to extinguish it. Roll away from the BG.
  • HUG LIKE A BUG. “Putting Out the Fire” is a great delaying tactic, plus, it is not easy for an out of shape adult to capture the child when he is rolling on the floor. However, eventually he will catch the kid. When he does reach down to grab the child, teach him or her to roll toward him and quickly hook his or her hands around one leg and his or her feet around the other. Shrimp up, duck his or her head and hold on for dear life.
  • SELF DEFENSE IS NOT AN INJURY-Free Activity. Yes, if you are wondering, the abductor, desperate now, will likely try to strike and kick the kid, probably will drag him or her along the ground trying to dislodge the child. Teach your child that the objective is to make the BG spend as much time and energy in the initial scene, betting that the delay will force him to break off the attack. As hard as this will be, and as frightening is the prospect, teach the child that the primary goal is to remain in the First Place and to never, ever leave the scene with the predator, even if it means suffering injury.
  • TARGET THE NOSE, EYES, THROAT. Conventional self defense against an adult predator is futile. But Safety Coaches can teach their child how to effectively gouge eyes, head butt noses and drive a good Beak Strike, Web Strike or Side Hand into a throat. Great primary targets that even children can strike (or even bite) when the BG leans in to carry him or her off (More about the fabulous Beak and Web Strikes in a future post).
  • HOOK ONTO TO ANYTHING TO KEEP FROM BEING CARRIED OFF. Children can save themselves by using the Hug Like a Bug tactic to keep from being dragged off a chair, a bicycle, a bed, etc. Grab onto the object and hold on for dear life. Make the BG pick you and the bike, bed, chair, whatever and tote it to his car. Grab a tree branch, tree trunk, Stop Sign, telephone pole on your way to his car, also.
  • FIGHT HIM EVEN IF HE GETS YOU INTO HIS CAR:
  • Ø Make yourself into dead weight as he carries you, and, then, as he tries to shove you into the car, twist and spin and try to drop, just like a cat who doesn’t want to be held.
  • Ø When he opens the door he has to ease up his grip on you. Drop your head and upper torso forward and down quickly. At the same time twist and squirm, and for a second you will slide a bit. Now, quickly, hook onto his belt or waist with your hands and slide toward the ground. Work your way down and now grab onto one of his legs and slide down. I call this Drop, Lock and Roll. If done right, the child can slide all the way down the BG’s leg, hook onto the ankle with his or her hands, and, eventually drop his or her legs until he or she can hook them around the other leg.
  • Ø The Element of Surprise. The BG, if he is not expecting this, and, who would? Will be weakened by this act.
  • Ø If the BG tries to throw the child into the front seat feet first and is holding his around his or her midsection, the child can delay the predator again, this time by placing the feet against the front seat and pushing backwards. He or she can also grab the seat belt at the top of the apparatus and hold on to that.
  • Ø Hug Like A Bug Again. Once again, the idea here is to delay the BG at the scene and/or to make the BG break off the abduction by being a Bad Victim. Remember: Teach your kid to act exactly the opposite of how the Ideal Victim (IV) would act. Remember, the IV is passive, compliant, frightened and silent. The BG wants nothing to do with a “crazy kid,” who makes a lot of noise; makes eye contact; acts defiant and makes a loud Here is your child’s opportunity to Make a Scene:
  • Use the metal “male” portion of the seat belt to block the door from closing.
  • Once the door is closed, but before he can seat belt the child (if he tells the kid to belt himself in, refuse), teach the child to “act” passive and contrite and to lay his or her head on the BG’s shoulder (after all, this is what he wants).
  • When the BG relaxes, the child should crawl into the BG’s lap (I know, crazy, right?).
  • And, ASAP, the child Hugs the BG Like a Bug, face to face. He or she can bite, head butt, reach and grab the keys from the ignition and toss them into the back seat. Fight for his or her life.
  • The predator now has two choices:
  • Ø Allow the crazy kid to leave (Role Play with your child. Teach him how to unlock a passenger car door).
  • Ø Drive off with a Crazy Kid hooked to him, face to face (how far do you think he would get on the road?).

Until the next post. Stay Safe.

 

Hammer

When All Else Fails: Counter-Abductor Tactics (CAT)

HERE comes the tough part for parents. Parents who have taken on the role of Safety Coaches. Parents who’ve tught their kids skills and techniques to avoid the adult predator, a set of principles and values to adhere to help their child to escape and evade miscreants who stalk our schoolyards and neighborhoods.

 

IF you are a Safety Coach for your child, more likely than not you have made every effort not to frighten your child.(see the last post) when you advocate tactics to avoid child predators..

 

BUT now it’s time to go one step further. You have to teach your kid(s) what to do if and when the Bad Guy (BG) actually grabs him or her. What do to when everything you’ve imparted to them – things about which I have written in past posts – have gone south (things like being observant; ignoring the adult when he speaks; keep moving; indirect eye contact; never ever leave the original scene with the BG, et al).

 

WHAT TO TEACH YOUR CHILD TO DO WHEN THE PREDATOR GRABS HIM/HER.

 

  • BREATHE and, THINK. The BG wants you to freeze and become a “piece of wood” that he can easily carry off to a secondary crime scene.
  • HAVE A PRE-DESIGNED PLAN OF ACTION. Trust me, if your child has no escape or fight plan, I have no doubt he or she will not be able to come up with a plan when the BG grabs him/her (First Touch). The heart rate will explode beyond 200 BPM and the child will freeze in place, becoming the Ideal Victim.
  • KEEP TALKING.   The BG wants a victim who is not only an “inanimate object,” but also a quite one at that.
  • INVITE WITNESSES. On the off-chance there are other adults or children nearby, let them know you are in trouble. “Help me, he is not my father!”

PHYSICAL COUNTERMEASURES: Delaying the Predator in the Crime Scene.

  • PUT OUT THE FIRE. John Hall, the ingenious founder of Kid Escape, advocates that children be taught to perform acts designed to delay the predator’s ability to drag their victims away from the crime scene based on his understanding that the BG’s objective is speed, silence and victim-inactivity. Using fun training games, teach your child to pretend his or her’s shirt is on fire and he has to roll on the ground to extinguish it. Roll away from the BG.
  • HUG LIKE A BUG. “Putting Out the Fire” is a great delaying tactic, plus, it is not easy for an out of shape adult to capture the child when he is rolling on the floor. However, eventually he will catch the kid. When he does reach down to grab the child, teach him or her to roll toward him and quickly hook his or her hands around one leg and his or her feet around the other. Shrimp up, duck his or her head and hold on for dear life.
  • SELF DEFENSE IS NOT AN INJURY-Free Activity. Yes, if you are wondering, the abductor, desperate now, will likely try to strike and kick the kid, probably will drag him or her along the ground trying to dislodge the child. Teach your child that the objective is to make the BG spend as much time and energy in the initial scene, betting that the delay will force him to break off the attack. As hard as this will be, and as frightening is the prospect, teach the child that the primary goal is to remain in the First Place and to never, ever leave the scene with the predator, even if it means suffering injury.
  • TARGET THE NOSE, EYES, THROAT. Conventional self defense against an adult predator is futile. But Safety Coaches can teach their child how to effectively gouge eyes, head butt noses and drive a good Beak Strike, Web Strike or Side Hand into a throat. Great primary targets that even children can strike (or even bite) when the BG leans in to carry him or her off (More about the fabulous Beak and Web Strikes in a future post).
  • HOOK ONTO TO ANYTHING TO KEEP FROM BEING CARRIED OFF. Children can save themselves by using the Hug Like a Bug tactic to keep from being dragged off a chair, a bicycle, a bed, etc. Grab onto the object and hold on for dear life. Make the BG pick you and the bike, bed, chair, whatever and tote it to his car. Grab a tree branch, tree trunk, Stop Sign, telephone pole on your way to his car, also.
  • FIGHT HIM EVEN IF HE GETS YOU INTO HIS CAR:
  • Ø Make yourself into dead weight as he carries you, and, then, as he tries to shove you into the car, twist and spin and try to drop, just like a cat who doesn’t want to be held.
  • Ø When he opens the door he has to ease up his grip on you. Drop your head and upper torso forward and down quickly. At the same time twist and squirm, and for a second you will slide a bit. Now, quickly, hook onto his belt or waist with your hands and slide toward the ground. Work your way down and now grab onto one of his legs and slide down. I call this Drop, Lock and Roll. If done right, the child can slide all the way down the BG’s leg, hook onto the ankle with his or her hands, and, eventually drop his or her legs until he or she can hook them around the other leg.
  • Ø The Element of Surprise. The BG, if he is not expecting this, and, who would? Will be weakened by this act.
  • Ø If the BG tries to throw the child into the front seat feet first and is holding his around his or her midsection, the child can delay the predator again, this time by placing the feet against the front seat and pushing backwards. He or she can also grab the seat belt at the top of the apparatus and hold on to that.
  • Ø Hug Like A Bug Again. Once again, the idea here is to delay the BG at the scene and/or to make the BG break off the abduction by being a Bad Victim. Remember: Teach your kid to act exactly the opposite of how the Ideal Victim (IV) would act. Remember, the IV is passive, compliant, frightened and silent. The BG wants nothing to do with a “crazy kid,” who makes a lot of noise; makes eye contact; acts defiant and makes a loud Here is your child’s opportunity to Make a Scene:
  • Use the metal “male” portion of the seat belt to block the door from closing.
  • Once the door is closed, but before he can seat belt the child (if he tells the kid to belt himself in, refuse), teach the child to “act” passive and contrite and to lay his or her head on the BG’s shoulder (after all, this is what he wants).
  • When the BG relaxes, the child should crawl into the BG’s lap (I know, crazy, right?).
  • And, ASAP, the child Hugs the BG Like a Bug, face to face. He or she can bite, head butt, reach and grab the keys from the ignition and toss them into the back seat. Fight for his or her life.
  • The predator now has two choices:
  • Ø Allow the crazy kid to leave (Role Play with your child. Teach him how to unlock a passenger car door).
  • Ø Drive off with a Crazy Kid hooked to him, face to face (how far do you think he would get on the road?).

Until the next post. Stay Safe.

 

Hammer

Counter Abduction Tactics (CAT) For Kids

NOT too long ago a young boy was walking home with a hubcap he had found. A car pulled up and a man rolled down the window and, in his “nicest” voice, thanked the youngster for finding his hubcap. “Would you mind walking over here and handing it to me?” he sang.

 

THE BOY dropped the hubcap where he stood and said in his nicest voice, “here it is, sir.” And continued on his way home. When he arrived home, he did what I would have asked him to do in one of my CAT classes: he consolidated the tactic by telling his mother about what had happened. Predictably, when the boy and his mother walked back to the scene of the incident they found the hubcap where the boy had dropped it.

 

THIS brings up, then, exactly what tactics does CAT for Kids advocate to keep your children safe from the Chicken Hawks (child sexual predators and abductors)?

 

THE CAT FOR KIDS PARADIGM.

 

A caveat here. There are several CAT paradigms. Counter-Bully. Counter-Abductors. Escape and Evasion. Preventive. Physical Survival Strategies. What you are about to read represents Escape and Evasion Tactics relative to the Hubcap Scenario.

 

  • Safety Coaches (Parents) simply teach their child skills that the child is already good at.
  • Safety Coaches Must Not Frighten Their Kids with words, etc. “Never, ever do this. He will kill you, rape you, cut you up, etc!
  • Safety Coaches always supportive. Tactics designed to get you back to us because we love you. When child asks “Why would someone want to hurt me?” Make certain you (The Safety Coach) makes it clear that “I don’t really know, but it is not your (the child’s) fault. It’s the adult’s (the predator)!
  • SAFETY COACH TEACHES SKILLS THE CHILD IS ALREADY GOOD AT:
  • Ø Ignoring what an adult says. If that adult or older youngster is not on your Safe List (list of people who are totally safe to talk to. A very short list, by the way), do not engage in conversation.
  • Ø Turn Off Your Ears. No matter how nice he or she sounds.
  • Ø Trust your gut instincts. Kids are always saying, “I don’t know, Mom. He just gives me The Creeps,” when the kid doesn’t want to kiss or hug a relative or friend of the family. The Creeps are Gut Instincts and they are hardly ever wrong!
  • Ø The CAT Golden Rule: NEVER, EVER LEAVE THE FIRST PLACE WITH ANYONE, ESPECIALLY AN ADULT!
  • Ø Consolidate CAT. Tell a trusted second (adult) person ASAP about the adult who tried to get your to leave the first place with his or her’s seductive “story.”
  • Ø Consolidate CAT Rule Number 2 (Parents/Safety Coach must teach their child this). Move away when adult calls you by name, or addresses you in any way (do not follow your instincts and inquire how he knows you by name), even when he says your parents have been injured. Teach the child to say: “Thank you for telling me. I’ll go find mom and dad right now—“
  • Ø Safety Coach Says: Always Remember When Adult Starts talking To You:
  • Ø Keep Moving.
  • Ø But do not turn your back to him (Predator-Prey-Principle).
  • Ø It is not about you, honey. It is their sickness.
  • Ø Do Not Ask “Why?” The only question in your mind is How can I escape now?”
  • Ø If He “Has You and You Can’t Escape and Evade Him Right Now:
  • Sit down and stay in that public place. Help will come to you.
  • Hug Like a Bug, like a Sit-In Protest.
  • Sit-Ins are hard to pick up. If he does try to pick you up and carry you off, though—-woops. That is my next post:

Until Then, please Stay safe.

 

Hammer

The Fighting Arts and Bully Countermeasures.

I WOULD LIKE TO SET SOMETHING STRAIGHT. The Fighting Arts against a bully (bullies) is benign compared to defending oneself against more pernicious types of attacks, where the Bad Guy’s goal includes your serious injury, humiliation, loss of properties and monies, and/or death.

 

YET probably, in both the short and long run, just as important.

 

The goal here is escape and evasion. End of story, Dog. Especially when the attack comes within the legal confines of your school (or workplace) where exists a Zero Tolerance against Fighting. Don’t get me wrong: if it comes down to a choice between going to the hospital or facing a suspension, I say lay the bully out. But in 94 plus % of the situations, you can discourage future attacks and get out of Dodge at the same time.

 

Escape and Evasion – Ten Easy Steps.

 

  1. Prepare. The bully depends on you being so surprised and frightened by their

Attack that you freeze into inactivity. If you think you have been targeted, decide how you are going to respond when it comes. Commit yourself to The Plan. Your plan should include not only a physical response, but your mental and verbal responses also.

  1. Look Calm, Confident. Not the end of the world if you look scared. Also, not the end if you are scared. Nevertheless, get together with your Safety Coach (parents, friend, teacher) and rehearse looking confident.
  2. Cycle Breathe For Calm. Train Calm by breathing in through your nose for a count of 2; holding your breath for a count of 2, then exhaling for a count of 2. Repeat.
  3. Keep Remarks Brief.  It is important to say something. Verbalizing and breathing breaks up your fear and gets your mind and body into Action Mode. Do not beg. Make a brief declarative statement.
    • “Stay where you are, Ace. I can hear you fine from there.”
    • “What (as in “What are you looking at, Dude, or Dudette?”)?”
    • “What are you looking at?”
    • “You look pretty tense. What can I do for you?”
  4. De-escalate Thru Deflection. Deflect any and all incoming insults, threats and intimidation through the Art of Deflection (the bully wants you to absorb verbal attacks, to take them seriously. I want you to Depreciate these Verbal Icons!
    • I’m ugly? You bet. That is the look I’m going for, girl.”
    • I’m fat? What the heck happened, girl? Just an hour ago I looked like Heather Locklear.”
    • You got yourself some pretty bad data there, Dude (response to a bully saying “you are a fagot and we’re gonna kick your ass all over the schoolyard!”).”
  1. DISTRACT. Escape and evasion can often happen after changing the bully’s channel, a metaphor I use for weakening and slowing him/her down by redirecting his or her mental and physical focus. There are many Distraction Techniques (defined as weakening the attacker’s motor actions by changing his or her thought process). Come up with your own distractions, but I have used several great ones to slow my attacker before I executed either a coupe de grace:
    • Coughing and backing up while pointing at the Bad Guy. Stops ‘em cold.
    • “Hey, man, what’s that logo on your shirt (while backing up and pointing)?
    • “Nice shoes (while pointing at his or her shoes).”
    • Shout real loud and point at him as he comes toward you. “STOP!”
  2. MOVE. Don’t get caught flatfooted. Keep your weight on the balls of your feet and sidle from side to side.
  3. TURTLE-UP. When the attack comes get your hands up and move in, tying up the bully. Shuffle around with him.
  4. QUICK STRIKES TO OPEN TARGETS. Deliver a quick strike to an open target. If he or she is concentrating the attack high, go low. Scoot your rearward foot quickly forward and drive the toe of your shoes hard into the bully’s lower shin. Use his or her same side shoulder as a guide to strike that target every time. This surprise strike will surprise the attacker and weaken his or her grip on you. More likely than not, he or she will bring his or her head down, which offers a great target for an ascending Palm Heel Strike to the chin or nose.
  5. GO!

 

Until the Next Post. Stay Safe.

Ham

I WOULD LIKE TO SET SOMETHING STRAIGHT. The Fighting Arts against a bully (bullies) is benign compared to defending oneself against more pernicious types of attacks, where the Bad Guy’s goal includes your serious injury, humiliation, loss of properties and monies, and/or death.

 

YET probably, in both the short and long run, just as important.

 

The goal here is escape and evasion. End of story, Dog. Especially when the attack comes within the legal confines of your school (or workplace) where exists a Zero Tolerance against Fighting. Don’t get me wrong: if it comes down to a choice between going to the hospital or facing a suspension, I say lay the bully out. But in 94 plus % of the situations, you can discourage future attacks and get out of Dodge at the same time.

 

Escape and Evasion – Ten Easy Steps.

 

  1. Prepare. The bully depends on you being so surprised and frightened by their

Attack that you freeze into inactivity. If you think you have been targeted, decide how you are going to respond when it comes. Commit yourself to The Plan. Your plan should include not only a physical response, but your mental and verbal responses also.

  1. Look Calm, Confident. Not the end of the world if you look scared. Also, not the end if you are scared. Nevertheless, get together with your Safety Coach (parents, friend, teacher) and rehearse looking confident.
  2. Cycle Breathe For Calm. Train Calm by breathing in through your nose for a count of 2; holding your breath for a count of 2, then exhaling for a count of 2. Repeat.
  3. Keep Remarks Brief. It is important to say something. Verbalizing and breathing breaks up your fear and gets your mind and body into Action Mode. Do not beg. Make a brief declarative statement.
    • “Stay where you are, Ace. I can hear you fine from there.”
    • “What (as in “What are you looking at, Dude, or Dudette?”)?”
    • “What are you looking at?”
    • “You look pretty tense. What can I do for you?”
  4. De-escalate Thru Deflection. Deflect any and all incoming insults, threats and intimidation through the Art of Deflection (the bully wants you to absorb verbal attacks, to take them seriously. I want you to Depreciate these Verbal Icons!
    • I’m ugly? You bet. That is the look I’m going for, girl.”
    • I’m fat? What the heck happened, girl? Just an hour ago I looked like Heather Locklear.”
    • You got yourself some pretty bad data there, Dude (response to a bully saying “you are a fagot and we’re gonna kick your ass all over the schoolyard!”).”
  1. DISTRACT. Escape and evasion can often happen after changing the bully’s channel, a metaphor I use for weakening and slowing him/her down by redirecting his or her mental and physical focus. There are many Distraction Techniques (defined as weakening the attacker’s motor actions by changing his or her thought process). Come up with your own distractions, but I have used several great ones to slow my attacker before I executed either a coupe de grace:
    • Coughing and backing up while pointing at the Bad Guy. Stops ‘em cold.
    • “Hey, man, what’s that logo on your shirt (while backing up and pointing)?
    • “Nice shoes (while pointing at his or her shoes).”
    • Shout real loud and point at him as he comes toward you. “STOP!”
  2. MOVE. Don’t get caught flatfooted. Keep your weight on the balls of your feet and sidle from side to side.
  3. TURTLE-UP. When the attack comes get your hands up and move in, tying up the bully. Shuffle around with him.
  4. QUICK STRIKES TO OPEN TARGETS. Deliver a quick strike to an open target. If he or she is concentrating the attack high, go low. Scoot your rearward foot quickly forward and drive the toe of your shoes hard into the bully’s lower shin. Use his or her same side shoulder as a guide to strike that target every time. This surprise strike will surprise the attacker and weaken his or her grip on you. More likely than not, he or she will bring his or her head down, which offers a great target for an ascending Palm Heel Strike to the chin or nose.
  5. GO!

 

Until the Next Post. Stay Safe.

Ham

I WOULD LIKE TO SET SOMETHING STRAIGHT. The Fighting Arts against a bully (bullies) is benign compared to defending oneself against more pernicious types of attacks, where the Bad Guy’s goal includes your serious injury, humiliation, loss of properties and monies, and/or death.

 

YET probably, in both the short and long run, just as important.

 

The goal here is escape and evasion. End of story, Dog. Especially when the attack comes within the legal confines of your school (or workplace) where exists a Zero Tolerance against Fighting. Don’t get me wrong: if it comes down to a choice between going to the hospital or facing a suspension, I say lay the bully out. But in 94 plus % of the situations, you can discourage future attacks and get out of Dodge at the same time.

 

Escape and Evasion – Ten Easy Steps.

 

  1. Prepare. The bully depends on you being so surprised and frightened by their

Attack that you freeze into inactivity. If you think you have been targeted, decide how you are going to respond when it comes. Commit yourself to The Plan. Your plan should include not only a physical response, but your mental and verbal responses also.

  1. Look Calm, Confident. Not the end of the world if you look scared. Also, not the end if you are scared. Nevertheless, get together with your Safety Coach (parents, friend, teacher) and rehearse looking confident.
  2. Cycle Breathe For Calm. Train Calm by breathing in through your nose for a count of 2; holding your breath for a count of 2, then exhaling for a count of 2. Repeat.
  3. Keep Remarks Brief. It is important to say something. Verbalizing and breathing breaks up your fear and gets your mind and body into Action Mode. Do not beg. Make a brief declarative statement.
    • “Stay where you are, Ace. I can hear you fine from there.”
    • “What (as in “What are you looking at, Dude, or Dudette?”)?”
    • “What are you looking at?”
    • “You look pretty tense. What can I do for you?”
  4. De-escalate Thru Deflection. Deflect any and all incoming insults, threats and intimidation through the Art of Deflection (the bully wants you to absorb verbal attacks, to take them seriously. I want you to Depreciate these Verbal Icons!
    • I’m ugly? You bet. That is the look I’m going for, girl.”
    • I’m fat? What the heck happened, girl? Just an hour ago I looked like Heather Locklear.”
    • You got yourself some pretty bad data there, Dude (response to a bully saying “you are a fagot and we’re gonna kick your ass all over the schoolyard!”).”
  1. DISTRACT. Escape and evasion can often happen after changing the bully’s channel, a metaphor I use for weakening and slowing him/her down by redirecting his or her mental and physical focus. There are many Distraction Techniques (defined as weakening the attacker’s motor actions by changing his or her thought process). Come up with your own distractions, but I have used several great ones to slow my attacker before I executed either a coupe de grace:
    • Coughing and backing up while pointing at the Bad Guy. Stops ‘em cold.
    • “Hey, man, what’s that logo on your shirt (while backing up and pointing)?
    • “Nice shoes (while pointing at his or her shoes).”
    • Shout real loud and point at him as he comes toward you. “STOP!”
  2. MOVE. Don’t get caught flatfooted. Keep your weight on the balls of your feet and sidle from side to side.
  3. TURTLE-UP. When the attack comes get your hands up and move in, tying up the bully. Shuffle around with him.
  4. QUICK STRIKES TO OPEN TARGETS. Deliver a quick strike to an open target. If he or she is concentrating the attack high, go low. Scoot your rearward foot quickly forward and drive the toe of your shoes hard into the bully’s lower shin. Use his or her same side shoulder as a guide to strike that target every time. This surprise strike will surprise the attacker and weaken his or her grip on you. More likely than not, he or she will bring his or her head down, which offers a great target for an ascending Palm Heel Strike to the chin or nose.
  5. GO!

 

Until the Next Post. Stay Safe.

Ham