Counter Abduction Tactics (CAT) For Kids

NOT too long ago a young boy was walking home with a hubcap he had found. A car pulled up and a man rolled down the window and, in his “nicest” voice, thanked the youngster for finding his hubcap. “Would you mind walking over here and handing it to me?” he sang.

 

THE BOY dropped the hubcap where he stood and said in his nicest voice, “here it is, sir.” And continued on his way home. When he arrived home, he did what I would have asked him to do in one of my CAT classes: he consolidated the tactic by telling his mother about what had happened. Predictably, when the boy and his mother walked back to the scene of the incident they found the hubcap where the boy had dropped it.

 

THIS brings up, then, exactly what tactics does CAT for Kids advocate to keep your children safe from the Chicken Hawks (child sexual predators and abductors)?

 

THE CAT FOR KIDS PARADIGM.

 

A caveat here. There are several CAT paradigms. Counter-Bully. Counter-Abductors. Escape and Evasion. Preventive. Physical Survival Strategies. What you are about to read represents Escape and Evasion Tactics relative to the Hubcap Scenario.

 

  • Safety Coaches (Parents) simply teach their child skills that the child is already good at.
  • Safety Coaches Must Not Frighten Their Kids with words, etc. “Never, ever do this. He will kill you, rape you, cut you up, etc!
  • Safety Coaches always supportive. Tactics designed to get you back to us because we love you. When child asks “Why would someone want to hurt me?” Make certain you (The Safety Coach) makes it clear that “I don’t really know, but it is not your (the child’s) fault. It’s the adult’s (the predator)!
  • SAFETY COACH TEACHES SKILLS THE CHILD IS ALREADY GOOD AT:
  • Ø Ignoring what an adult says. If that adult or older youngster is not on your Safe List (list of people who are totally safe to talk to. A very short list, by the way), do not engage in conversation.
  • Ø Turn Off Your Ears. No matter how nice he or she sounds.
  • Ø Trust your gut instincts. Kids are always saying, “I don’t know, Mom. He just gives me The Creeps,” when the kid doesn’t want to kiss or hug a relative or friend of the family. The Creeps are Gut Instincts and they are hardly ever wrong!
  • Ø The CAT Golden Rule: NEVER, EVER LEAVE THE FIRST PLACE WITH ANYONE, ESPECIALLY AN ADULT!
  • Ø Consolidate CAT. Tell a trusted second (adult) person ASAP about the adult who tried to get your to leave the first place with his or her’s seductive “story.”
  • Ø Consolidate CAT Rule Number 2 (Parents/Safety Coach must teach their child this). Move away when adult calls you by name, or addresses you in any way (do not follow your instincts and inquire how he knows you by name), even when he says your parents have been injured. Teach the child to say: “Thank you for telling me. I’ll go find mom and dad right now—“
  • Ø Safety Coach Says: Always Remember When Adult Starts talking To You:
  • Ø Keep Moving.
  • Ø But do not turn your back to him (Predator-Prey-Principle).
  • Ø It is not about you, honey. It is their sickness.
  • Ø Do Not Ask “Why?” The only question in your mind is How can I escape now?”
  • Ø If He “Has You and You Can’t Escape and Evade Him Right Now:
  • Sit down and stay in that public place. Help will come to you.
  • Hug Like a Bug, like a Sit-In Protest.
  • Sit-Ins are hard to pick up. If he does try to pick you up and carry you off, though—-woops. That is my next post:

Until Then, please Stay safe.

 

Hammer

The Fighting Arts and Bully Countermeasures.

I WOULD LIKE TO SET SOMETHING STRAIGHT. The Fighting Arts against a bully (bullies) is benign compared to defending oneself against more pernicious types of attacks, where the Bad Guy’s goal includes your serious injury, humiliation, loss of properties and monies, and/or death.

 

YET probably, in both the short and long run, just as important.

 

The goal here is escape and evasion. End of story, Dog. Especially when the attack comes within the legal confines of your school (or workplace) where exists a Zero Tolerance against Fighting. Don’t get me wrong: if it comes down to a choice between going to the hospital or facing a suspension, I say lay the bully out. But in 94 plus % of the situations, you can discourage future attacks and get out of Dodge at the same time.

 

Escape and Evasion – Ten Easy Steps.

 

  1. Prepare. The bully depends on you being so surprised and frightened by their

Attack that you freeze into inactivity. If you think you have been targeted, decide how you are going to respond when it comes. Commit yourself to The Plan. Your plan should include not only a physical response, but your mental and verbal responses also.

  1. Look Calm, Confident. Not the end of the world if you look scared. Also, not the end if you are scared. Nevertheless, get together with your Safety Coach (parents, friend, teacher) and rehearse looking confident.
  2. Cycle Breathe For Calm. Train Calm by breathing in through your nose for a count of 2; holding your breath for a count of 2, then exhaling for a count of 2. Repeat.
  3. Keep Remarks Brief.  It is important to say something. Verbalizing and breathing breaks up your fear and gets your mind and body into Action Mode. Do not beg. Make a brief declarative statement.
    • “Stay where you are, Ace. I can hear you fine from there.”
    • “What (as in “What are you looking at, Dude, or Dudette?”)?”
    • “What are you looking at?”
    • “You look pretty tense. What can I do for you?”
  4. De-escalate Thru Deflection. Deflect any and all incoming insults, threats and intimidation through the Art of Deflection (the bully wants you to absorb verbal attacks, to take them seriously. I want you to Depreciate these Verbal Icons!
    • I’m ugly? You bet. That is the look I’m going for, girl.”
    • I’m fat? What the heck happened, girl? Just an hour ago I looked like Heather Locklear.”
    • You got yourself some pretty bad data there, Dude (response to a bully saying “you are a fagot and we’re gonna kick your ass all over the schoolyard!”).”
  1. DISTRACT. Escape and evasion can often happen after changing the bully’s channel, a metaphor I use for weakening and slowing him/her down by redirecting his or her mental and physical focus. There are many Distraction Techniques (defined as weakening the attacker’s motor actions by changing his or her thought process). Come up with your own distractions, but I have used several great ones to slow my attacker before I executed either a coupe de grace:
    • Coughing and backing up while pointing at the Bad Guy. Stops ‘em cold.
    • “Hey, man, what’s that logo on your shirt (while backing up and pointing)?
    • “Nice shoes (while pointing at his or her shoes).”
    • Shout real loud and point at him as he comes toward you. “STOP!”
  2. MOVE. Don’t get caught flatfooted. Keep your weight on the balls of your feet and sidle from side to side.
  3. TURTLE-UP. When the attack comes get your hands up and move in, tying up the bully. Shuffle around with him.
  4. QUICK STRIKES TO OPEN TARGETS. Deliver a quick strike to an open target. If he or she is concentrating the attack high, go low. Scoot your rearward foot quickly forward and drive the toe of your shoes hard into the bully’s lower shin. Use his or her same side shoulder as a guide to strike that target every time. This surprise strike will surprise the attacker and weaken his or her grip on you. More likely than not, he or she will bring his or her head down, which offers a great target for an ascending Palm Heel Strike to the chin or nose.
  5. GO!

 

Until the Next Post. Stay Safe.

Ham

I WOULD LIKE TO SET SOMETHING STRAIGHT. The Fighting Arts against a bully (bullies) is benign compared to defending oneself against more pernicious types of attacks, where the Bad Guy’s goal includes your serious injury, humiliation, loss of properties and monies, and/or death.

 

YET probably, in both the short and long run, just as important.

 

The goal here is escape and evasion. End of story, Dog. Especially when the attack comes within the legal confines of your school (or workplace) where exists a Zero Tolerance against Fighting. Don’t get me wrong: if it comes down to a choice between going to the hospital or facing a suspension, I say lay the bully out. But in 94 plus % of the situations, you can discourage future attacks and get out of Dodge at the same time.

 

Escape and Evasion – Ten Easy Steps.

 

  1. Prepare. The bully depends on you being so surprised and frightened by their

Attack that you freeze into inactivity. If you think you have been targeted, decide how you are going to respond when it comes. Commit yourself to The Plan. Your plan should include not only a physical response, but your mental and verbal responses also.

  1. Look Calm, Confident. Not the end of the world if you look scared. Also, not the end if you are scared. Nevertheless, get together with your Safety Coach (parents, friend, teacher) and rehearse looking confident.
  2. Cycle Breathe For Calm. Train Calm by breathing in through your nose for a count of 2; holding your breath for a count of 2, then exhaling for a count of 2. Repeat.
  3. Keep Remarks Brief. It is important to say something. Verbalizing and breathing breaks up your fear and gets your mind and body into Action Mode. Do not beg. Make a brief declarative statement.
    • “Stay where you are, Ace. I can hear you fine from there.”
    • “What (as in “What are you looking at, Dude, or Dudette?”)?”
    • “What are you looking at?”
    • “You look pretty tense. What can I do for you?”
  4. De-escalate Thru Deflection. Deflect any and all incoming insults, threats and intimidation through the Art of Deflection (the bully wants you to absorb verbal attacks, to take them seriously. I want you to Depreciate these Verbal Icons!
    • I’m ugly? You bet. That is the look I’m going for, girl.”
    • I’m fat? What the heck happened, girl? Just an hour ago I looked like Heather Locklear.”
    • You got yourself some pretty bad data there, Dude (response to a bully saying “you are a fagot and we’re gonna kick your ass all over the schoolyard!”).”
  1. DISTRACT. Escape and evasion can often happen after changing the bully’s channel, a metaphor I use for weakening and slowing him/her down by redirecting his or her mental and physical focus. There are many Distraction Techniques (defined as weakening the attacker’s motor actions by changing his or her thought process). Come up with your own distractions, but I have used several great ones to slow my attacker before I executed either a coupe de grace:
    • Coughing and backing up while pointing at the Bad Guy. Stops ‘em cold.
    • “Hey, man, what’s that logo on your shirt (while backing up and pointing)?
    • “Nice shoes (while pointing at his or her shoes).”
    • Shout real loud and point at him as he comes toward you. “STOP!”
  2. MOVE. Don’t get caught flatfooted. Keep your weight on the balls of your feet and sidle from side to side.
  3. TURTLE-UP. When the attack comes get your hands up and move in, tying up the bully. Shuffle around with him.
  4. QUICK STRIKES TO OPEN TARGETS. Deliver a quick strike to an open target. If he or she is concentrating the attack high, go low. Scoot your rearward foot quickly forward and drive the toe of your shoes hard into the bully’s lower shin. Use his or her same side shoulder as a guide to strike that target every time. This surprise strike will surprise the attacker and weaken his or her grip on you. More likely than not, he or she will bring his or her head down, which offers a great target for an ascending Palm Heel Strike to the chin or nose.
  5. GO!

 

Until the Next Post. Stay Safe.

Ham

I WOULD LIKE TO SET SOMETHING STRAIGHT. The Fighting Arts against a bully (bullies) is benign compared to defending oneself against more pernicious types of attacks, where the Bad Guy’s goal includes your serious injury, humiliation, loss of properties and monies, and/or death.

 

YET probably, in both the short and long run, just as important.

 

The goal here is escape and evasion. End of story, Dog. Especially when the attack comes within the legal confines of your school (or workplace) where exists a Zero Tolerance against Fighting. Don’t get me wrong: if it comes down to a choice between going to the hospital or facing a suspension, I say lay the bully out. But in 94 plus % of the situations, you can discourage future attacks and get out of Dodge at the same time.

 

Escape and Evasion – Ten Easy Steps.

 

  1. Prepare. The bully depends on you being so surprised and frightened by their

Attack that you freeze into inactivity. If you think you have been targeted, decide how you are going to respond when it comes. Commit yourself to The Plan. Your plan should include not only a physical response, but your mental and verbal responses also.

  1. Look Calm, Confident. Not the end of the world if you look scared. Also, not the end if you are scared. Nevertheless, get together with your Safety Coach (parents, friend, teacher) and rehearse looking confident.
  2. Cycle Breathe For Calm. Train Calm by breathing in through your nose for a count of 2; holding your breath for a count of 2, then exhaling for a count of 2. Repeat.
  3. Keep Remarks Brief. It is important to say something. Verbalizing and breathing breaks up your fear and gets your mind and body into Action Mode. Do not beg. Make a brief declarative statement.
    • “Stay where you are, Ace. I can hear you fine from there.”
    • “What (as in “What are you looking at, Dude, or Dudette?”)?”
    • “What are you looking at?”
    • “You look pretty tense. What can I do for you?”
  4. De-escalate Thru Deflection. Deflect any and all incoming insults, threats and intimidation through the Art of Deflection (the bully wants you to absorb verbal attacks, to take them seriously. I want you to Depreciate these Verbal Icons!
    • I’m ugly? You bet. That is the look I’m going for, girl.”
    • I’m fat? What the heck happened, girl? Just an hour ago I looked like Heather Locklear.”
    • You got yourself some pretty bad data there, Dude (response to a bully saying “you are a fagot and we’re gonna kick your ass all over the schoolyard!”).”
  1. DISTRACT. Escape and evasion can often happen after changing the bully’s channel, a metaphor I use for weakening and slowing him/her down by redirecting his or her mental and physical focus. There are many Distraction Techniques (defined as weakening the attacker’s motor actions by changing his or her thought process). Come up with your own distractions, but I have used several great ones to slow my attacker before I executed either a coupe de grace:
    • Coughing and backing up while pointing at the Bad Guy. Stops ‘em cold.
    • “Hey, man, what’s that logo on your shirt (while backing up and pointing)?
    • “Nice shoes (while pointing at his or her shoes).”
    • Shout real loud and point at him as he comes toward you. “STOP!”
  2. MOVE. Don’t get caught flatfooted. Keep your weight on the balls of your feet and sidle from side to side.
  3. TURTLE-UP. When the attack comes get your hands up and move in, tying up the bully. Shuffle around with him.
  4. QUICK STRIKES TO OPEN TARGETS. Deliver a quick strike to an open target. If he or she is concentrating the attack high, go low. Scoot your rearward foot quickly forward and drive the toe of your shoes hard into the bully’s lower shin. Use his or her same side shoulder as a guide to strike that target every time. This surprise strike will surprise the attacker and weaken his or her grip on you. More likely than not, he or she will bring his or her head down, which offers a great target for an ascending Palm Heel Strike to the chin or nose.
  5. GO!

 

Until the Next Post. Stay Safe.

Ham