The Fighting Arts and Bully Countermeasures.

I WOULD LIKE TO SET SOMETHING STRAIGHT. The Fighting Arts against a bully (bullies) is benign compared to defending oneself against more pernicious types of attacks, where the Bad Guy’s goal includes your serious injury, humiliation, loss of properties and monies, and/or death.

 

YET probably, in both the short and long run, just as important.

 

The goal here is escape and evasion. End of story, Dog. Especially when the attack comes within the legal confines of your school (or workplace) where exists a Zero Tolerance against Fighting. Don’t get me wrong: if it comes down to a choice between going to the hospital or facing a suspension, I say lay the bully out. But in 94 plus % of the situations, you can discourage future attacks and get out of Dodge at the same time.

 

Escape and Evasion – Ten Easy Steps.

 

  1. Prepare. The bully depends on you being so surprised and frightened by their

Attack that you freeze into inactivity. If you think you have been targeted, decide how you are going to respond when it comes. Commit yourself to The Plan. Your plan should include not only a physical response, but your mental and verbal responses also.

  1. Look Calm, Confident. Not the end of the world if you look scared. Also, not the end if you are scared. Nevertheless, get together with your Safety Coach (parents, friend, teacher) and rehearse looking confident.
  2. Cycle Breathe For Calm. Train Calm by breathing in through your nose for a count of 2; holding your breath for a count of 2, then exhaling for a count of 2. Repeat.
  3. Keep Remarks Brief.  It is important to say something. Verbalizing and breathing breaks up your fear and gets your mind and body into Action Mode. Do not beg. Make a brief declarative statement.
    • “Stay where you are, Ace. I can hear you fine from there.”
    • “What (as in “What are you looking at, Dude, or Dudette?”)?”
    • “What are you looking at?”
    • “You look pretty tense. What can I do for you?”
  4. De-escalate Thru Deflection. Deflect any and all incoming insults, threats and intimidation through the Art of Deflection (the bully wants you to absorb verbal attacks, to take them seriously. I want you to Depreciate these Verbal Icons!
    • I’m ugly? You bet. That is the look I’m going for, girl.”
    • I’m fat? What the heck happened, girl? Just an hour ago I looked like Heather Locklear.”
    • You got yourself some pretty bad data there, Dude (response to a bully saying “you are a fagot and we’re gonna kick your ass all over the schoolyard!”).”
  1. DISTRACT. Escape and evasion can often happen after changing the bully’s channel, a metaphor I use for weakening and slowing him/her down by redirecting his or her mental and physical focus. There are many Distraction Techniques (defined as weakening the attacker’s motor actions by changing his or her thought process). Come up with your own distractions, but I have used several great ones to slow my attacker before I executed either a coupe de grace:
    • Coughing and backing up while pointing at the Bad Guy. Stops ‘em cold.
    • “Hey, man, what’s that logo on your shirt (while backing up and pointing)?
    • “Nice shoes (while pointing at his or her shoes).”
    • Shout real loud and point at him as he comes toward you. “STOP!”
  2. MOVE. Don’t get caught flatfooted. Keep your weight on the balls of your feet and sidle from side to side.
  3. TURTLE-UP. When the attack comes get your hands up and move in, tying up the bully. Shuffle around with him.
  4. QUICK STRIKES TO OPEN TARGETS. Deliver a quick strike to an open target. If he or she is concentrating the attack high, go low. Scoot your rearward foot quickly forward and drive the toe of your shoes hard into the bully’s lower shin. Use his or her same side shoulder as a guide to strike that target every time. This surprise strike will surprise the attacker and weaken his or her grip on you. More likely than not, he or she will bring his or her head down, which offers a great target for an ascending Palm Heel Strike to the chin or nose.
  5. GO!

 

Until the Next Post. Stay Safe.

Ham

I WOULD LIKE TO SET SOMETHING STRAIGHT. The Fighting Arts against a bully (bullies) is benign compared to defending oneself against more pernicious types of attacks, where the Bad Guy’s goal includes your serious injury, humiliation, loss of properties and monies, and/or death.

 

YET probably, in both the short and long run, just as important.

 

The goal here is escape and evasion. End of story, Dog. Especially when the attack comes within the legal confines of your school (or workplace) where exists a Zero Tolerance against Fighting. Don’t get me wrong: if it comes down to a choice between going to the hospital or facing a suspension, I say lay the bully out. But in 94 plus % of the situations, you can discourage future attacks and get out of Dodge at the same time.

 

Escape and Evasion – Ten Easy Steps.

 

  1. Prepare. The bully depends on you being so surprised and frightened by their

Attack that you freeze into inactivity. If you think you have been targeted, decide how you are going to respond when it comes. Commit yourself to The Plan. Your plan should include not only a physical response, but your mental and verbal responses also.

  1. Look Calm, Confident. Not the end of the world if you look scared. Also, not the end if you are scared. Nevertheless, get together with your Safety Coach (parents, friend, teacher) and rehearse looking confident.
  2. Cycle Breathe For Calm. Train Calm by breathing in through your nose for a count of 2; holding your breath for a count of 2, then exhaling for a count of 2. Repeat.
  3. Keep Remarks Brief. It is important to say something. Verbalizing and breathing breaks up your fear and gets your mind and body into Action Mode. Do not beg. Make a brief declarative statement.
    • “Stay where you are, Ace. I can hear you fine from there.”
    • “What (as in “What are you looking at, Dude, or Dudette?”)?”
    • “What are you looking at?”
    • “You look pretty tense. What can I do for you?”
  4. De-escalate Thru Deflection. Deflect any and all incoming insults, threats and intimidation through the Art of Deflection (the bully wants you to absorb verbal attacks, to take them seriously. I want you to Depreciate these Verbal Icons!
    • I’m ugly? You bet. That is the look I’m going for, girl.”
    • I’m fat? What the heck happened, girl? Just an hour ago I looked like Heather Locklear.”
    • You got yourself some pretty bad data there, Dude (response to a bully saying “you are a fagot and we’re gonna kick your ass all over the schoolyard!”).”
  1. DISTRACT. Escape and evasion can often happen after changing the bully’s channel, a metaphor I use for weakening and slowing him/her down by redirecting his or her mental and physical focus. There are many Distraction Techniques (defined as weakening the attacker’s motor actions by changing his or her thought process). Come up with your own distractions, but I have used several great ones to slow my attacker before I executed either a coupe de grace:
    • Coughing and backing up while pointing at the Bad Guy. Stops ‘em cold.
    • “Hey, man, what’s that logo on your shirt (while backing up and pointing)?
    • “Nice shoes (while pointing at his or her shoes).”
    • Shout real loud and point at him as he comes toward you. “STOP!”
  2. MOVE. Don’t get caught flatfooted. Keep your weight on the balls of your feet and sidle from side to side.
  3. TURTLE-UP. When the attack comes get your hands up and move in, tying up the bully. Shuffle around with him.
  4. QUICK STRIKES TO OPEN TARGETS. Deliver a quick strike to an open target. If he or she is concentrating the attack high, go low. Scoot your rearward foot quickly forward and drive the toe of your shoes hard into the bully’s lower shin. Use his or her same side shoulder as a guide to strike that target every time. This surprise strike will surprise the attacker and weaken his or her grip on you. More likely than not, he or she will bring his or her head down, which offers a great target for an ascending Palm Heel Strike to the chin or nose.
  5. GO!

 

Until the Next Post. Stay Safe.

Ham

I WOULD LIKE TO SET SOMETHING STRAIGHT. The Fighting Arts against a bully (bullies) is benign compared to defending oneself against more pernicious types of attacks, where the Bad Guy’s goal includes your serious injury, humiliation, loss of properties and monies, and/or death.

 

YET probably, in both the short and long run, just as important.

 

The goal here is escape and evasion. End of story, Dog. Especially when the attack comes within the legal confines of your school (or workplace) where exists a Zero Tolerance against Fighting. Don’t get me wrong: if it comes down to a choice between going to the hospital or facing a suspension, I say lay the bully out. But in 94 plus % of the situations, you can discourage future attacks and get out of Dodge at the same time.

 

Escape and Evasion – Ten Easy Steps.

 

  1. Prepare. The bully depends on you being so surprised and frightened by their

Attack that you freeze into inactivity. If you think you have been targeted, decide how you are going to respond when it comes. Commit yourself to The Plan. Your plan should include not only a physical response, but your mental and verbal responses also.

  1. Look Calm, Confident. Not the end of the world if you look scared. Also, not the end if you are scared. Nevertheless, get together with your Safety Coach (parents, friend, teacher) and rehearse looking confident.
  2. Cycle Breathe For Calm. Train Calm by breathing in through your nose for a count of 2; holding your breath for a count of 2, then exhaling for a count of 2. Repeat.
  3. Keep Remarks Brief. It is important to say something. Verbalizing and breathing breaks up your fear and gets your mind and body into Action Mode. Do not beg. Make a brief declarative statement.
    • “Stay where you are, Ace. I can hear you fine from there.”
    • “What (as in “What are you looking at, Dude, or Dudette?”)?”
    • “What are you looking at?”
    • “You look pretty tense. What can I do for you?”
  4. De-escalate Thru Deflection. Deflect any and all incoming insults, threats and intimidation through the Art of Deflection (the bully wants you to absorb verbal attacks, to take them seriously. I want you to Depreciate these Verbal Icons!
    • I’m ugly? You bet. That is the look I’m going for, girl.”
    • I’m fat? What the heck happened, girl? Just an hour ago I looked like Heather Locklear.”
    • You got yourself some pretty bad data there, Dude (response to a bully saying “you are a fagot and we’re gonna kick your ass all over the schoolyard!”).”
  1. DISTRACT. Escape and evasion can often happen after changing the bully’s channel, a metaphor I use for weakening and slowing him/her down by redirecting his or her mental and physical focus. There are many Distraction Techniques (defined as weakening the attacker’s motor actions by changing his or her thought process). Come up with your own distractions, but I have used several great ones to slow my attacker before I executed either a coupe de grace:
    • Coughing and backing up while pointing at the Bad Guy. Stops ‘em cold.
    • “Hey, man, what’s that logo on your shirt (while backing up and pointing)?
    • “Nice shoes (while pointing at his or her shoes).”
    • Shout real loud and point at him as he comes toward you. “STOP!”
  2. MOVE. Don’t get caught flatfooted. Keep your weight on the balls of your feet and sidle from side to side.
  3. TURTLE-UP. When the attack comes get your hands up and move in, tying up the bully. Shuffle around with him.
  4. QUICK STRIKES TO OPEN TARGETS. Deliver a quick strike to an open target. If he or she is concentrating the attack high, go low. Scoot your rearward foot quickly forward and drive the toe of your shoes hard into the bully’s lower shin. Use his or her same side shoulder as a guide to strike that target every time. This surprise strike will surprise the attacker and weaken his or her grip on you. More likely than not, he or she will bring his or her head down, which offers a great target for an ascending Palm Heel Strike to the chin or nose.
  5. GO!

 

Until the Next Post. Stay Safe.

Ham